The "SEE ME" friends...

Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

I'm 27 and he's around my age as well. I've pretty much stopped making myself available to him. It appears to be working. Thanks for the advice, though.

Considering he is around the same age I'd say that was the best possible thing to do, in my opinion! Sorry for being presumptious it was based on his behaviour you were describing, nothing else!

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Oh no, you're fine! Most people think he's high-school age when I describe his behavior, but no, he's around the same age as me. Well, the good thing is I don't have to hear repetitive about only one subject, him. I can actually listen to my other friends now.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Going off on a related tangent here, but this reminds me strongly of a situation that I have with my friend.
I'm really talkative with her and she sounds genuinely interested in what I have to say. As well, she talks about lots of stuff with me too. However, if another friend of hers joins the two of us, then she'll totally ignore me and talk exclusively to the friend. Even if the other person is friendly and tries to get me involved again in the conversation, my friend will totally divert her attention to the other person and forget about me until the other person leaves.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

My friend is like this as well. If other people he knows are around, he'll totally ignore me. It doesn't bother me anymore because I backed off of him. I'm beginning to not care if he ever talks to me again.

I was speaking idiomatically.

So you have kinda "backed-off" a bit? If so then that's good. Self-centred people shouldn't be called friends, coz the care abut them NOT YOU. I'd prefer tobe lonely and longing for someone, rather than crumbling and grumbling everyday about how bad or this or that he (or even she) was... Hehehe...

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Yes, I've already backed off of him. He basically proved mine and your point by not speaking to me the past week or so unless I initiate conversation. If he doesn't say anything the rest of the month, that's fine. If he doesn't say anything the rest of the year, that's even better. More time for me with my other friends!

FELIPE NO

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If he doesn't say anything the rest of the month, that's fine. If he doesn't say anything the rest of the year, that's even better. More time for me with my other friends!

I can see how this guy can be irritating, but don't let it bother you too much. I mean it really depends on if you'd like him as a friend or not. He probably has some reason in the past for the way he acts, it's not just to irritate you or others heh. Though, it gets under my skin when people don't initiate conversation with me at least some of the time; I don't want to be the one doing all the work. Seems like he doesn't value a friendship with you very much, so I'd just think of him as an acquaintance.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by FallDragon

I can see how this guy can be irritating, but don't let it bother you too much. I mean it really depends on if you'd like him as a friend or not. He probably has some reason in the past for the way he acts, it's not just to irritate you or others heh. Though, it gets under my skin when people don't initiate conversation with me at least some of the time; I don't want to be the one doing all the work. Seems like he doesn't value a friendship with you very much, so I'd just think of him as an acquaintance.

Yeah, I should drop him down a level, like below everybody else. Acquaintance sounds better than friend. He deserves it.

It doesn't really bother me that he doesn't initiate conversation that much anymore. Usually when he does, it's something about him or what he's doing. It's actually a good thing that he isn't talking to me right now. I really don't care if he sees me as a friend or not anymore. I'm thinking of a very valid reason in my head as to why he even became my friend in the first place. *sigh* Oh well. My other friends are more interesting anyhow.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Delorean has a point and a funny avatar (I remember that episode)! Drexlerfan22, I can identify with that first paragraph... ... ... ! Does your name insuate that you are a fan of Clyde "The Glide" Drexler or some other Drexler?

Well, It appears that everyone hear has something interesting to say about the matter. I have a question, however. Is his behavior something that is common with everyone that knows him? If not and its just towards you, then perhaps he likes you or thinks you like him. If it is a common complaint then maybe he just finds himself very interesting or doesn't know much about anything else so he only talks about himself.

I don't know why he's advertising himself. Perhaps you should ask him why he talks about himself so much. Start off sweet and easy "You know, I realized something (fill in with you talk about yourself 95% of the time you speak to me- or something similar). Then ask if there is a reason why. You say he's an introvert, though, so you may have to manuever him into giving you the information you are looking for by "asking the right questions." If you are interested in solving the problem the best way to do so is to understand the problem. If you just wish to terminate the problem at all cost then you have the option to cut him off like nappy hair.

How ya doing, buddy?

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Though, it gets under my skin when people don't initiate conversation with me at least some of the time; I don't want to be the one doing all the work.

I was doing this with one friend through e-mail for about 3 years before I stopped. Now I hardly hear from her which is what I always knew would happen once I stopped pulling all of the weight. Infact the last couple of friendships ended because of this. With friends off the net, I've had to do all the calling and never getting return calls. These type of individuals can pass as ghosts - you don't hear from them or see them unless you seek them out.

Very irritating.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Darkk Child

Well, It appears that everyone hear has something interesting to say about the matter. I have a question, however. Is his behavior something that is common with everyone that knows him? If not and its just towards you, then perhaps he likes you or thinks you like him. If it is a common complaint then maybe he just finds himself very interesting or doesn't know much about anything else so he only talks about himself.

I'm not sure if this behavior of his is common with everyone else he knows. Nobody has complained to me about it yet. I seriously, no, seriously doubt he likes me. Besides, I've heard the description of the kind of person he likes (over and over) and it isn't me. He really has no reason to think that I would like him, however, if that's the case, I can rectify that part real quick.

Originally Posted by Darkk Child

I don't know why he's advertising himself. Perhaps you should ask him why he talks about himself so much. Start off sweet and easy "You know, I realized something (fill in with you talk about yourself 95% of the time you speak to me- or something similar). Then ask if there is a reason why. You say he's an introvert, though, so you may have to manuever him into giving you the information you are looking for by "asking the right questions." If you are interested in solving the problem the best way to do so is to understand the problem. If you just wish to terminate the problem at all cost then you have the option to cut him off like nappy hair.

It's got me confused as well. Movie stars have a right to advertise themselves because that's what they do. He's none of the sort. I'd ask him if, 1) I could get a word in edge-wise, 2) if he would actually answer the question, and 3) if he ever started talking to me again. I'd say the last time he contacted me on his own was sometime late last month, but the last time I contacted him was either earlier this week or last week. I'm fresh out of "reaching out" energy now.

I can't terminate him just yet. I feel as though this isn't really what he's all about, but more like a show. Kinda like an acceptance thing, I dunno. Only time will tell if he's assumed this role as a permanent one...

Originally Posted by Winter Storm

I was doing this with one friend through e-mail for about 3 years before I stopped. Now I hardly hear from her which is what I always knew would happen once I stopped pulling all of the weight. Infact the last couple of friendships ended because of this. With friends off the net, I've had to do all the calling and never getting return calls. These type of individuals can pass as ghosts - you don't hear from them or see them unless you seek them out.

Very irritating.

That's why people like this only hear from me on holidays, not for no reason at all. If they don't respond back to my holiday message, they only hear from me once a year, that being Christmas. And yes, I do agree it's very irritating. That's why I'm not reaching out to this guy now. I'm quite literally irritated and tired.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?