Friends and boyfriends

Unless he acts like a complete and utter asshole to her (i.e. cheating on her with a hooker and then giving her herpes), I fail to see how remaining friends with him after their relationship should be any sort of problem for her. People break up all the time, for lots of reasons, most of which should not be a question of whether you need to stay "loyal" to her by refusing to talk to him.

What could be a problem, however, is the slight hint of romantic affection you seem to feel for him*. She will probably, if that ever develops into anything, have an arguable problem with that. However, once a respectful amount of time has passed, if you two decide to date, simply let her know beforehand: "I know this might be difficult, but ____ and I are starting to develop something more than friendship. I thought it would be a good idea to let you know." That always seems to be the best course of action in those sorts of situations. (And under no circumstances give her the impression that if she's "not okay" with it, you'll break it off. Again, unless he did something truly horrible to her, she has no grounds to pull the veto card on your relationship with him.)



*Perhaps I'm wrong, but I don't think so, even if you haven't noticed it yet.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by a lurker cares™

Bros before hos.

Maturity instead of childishness.

There's nowhere I can't reach.