Friends and boyfriends

Since April last year, my best mate has been dating her current boyfriend. We'd known him for a few months previously, and as such, I had struck up a friendship with him, which still holds to this day. Hands down the man is a legend; it has literally been years since I valued a friendship like this, and it would appear that the feeling is mutual.

However, just before Christmas things took a downward turn. There really was no one to blame for it, but the relationship had a blip, and they parted ways for a short while to sort their shit out and see if something could be salvaged. Naturally I was upset for my best mate. I felt increasingly guilty when I began to worry that they would never resolve the issues they were facing and thus mean I would lose the lad's friendship. At the time she was quite messed up about how things were, so I never asked her the question I should have done: "Can I still be friends with him?"

Luckily they are back together now, so the issue has theoretically been resolved, but he confided in me and I in him just how upset we were that it could have meant the end of our friendship. I'm not trying to say they aren't a good couple, but considering our ages this relationship will eventually come to a halt, and the issue will resurface.

So I ask of you gamingforce, if you were in the same situation would you lose the friendship to spare feelings or would you refuse to do so because you care too much about the connection?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I hope I'll be able to do the same. It did happen once before with the same friend but her boyfriend then was a very old friend of both of ours, so there was no question about it.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I very much doubt that he would cheat on her; he's not that kind of bloke. Hopefully it should all be a-ok considering the responses, and the former.

I had noticed it, although I find it immensely scary that you can pick up on that just from text. I tend to get this with most male friends. It's kind of like having a crush, but not one I would ever wish to act on. I find my male friends attractive but there is absolutely no part of me that wants to do anything. Besides, he's not my type.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.