I suck at dealing with girls...

I wasn't planning on responding to this thread anymore but...

Originally Posted by Leknaat

Do NOT try to date a co-worker. Many businesses forbid this type of relationship, and mandate that if this IS the case, someone has to transfer (if possible) to another location. Many people don't date co-workers because if the relationship sours, things can go wrong with the working relationship.

Do you really think I'm that stupid that I wouldn't have thought about whether or not it's allowed at my work? It is, we've got a union and they wouldn't let the stores have a rule like that.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Good LORD are you whiny.

Everyone is telling you the same thing. I don't know why you're going to sit here and fight it.

If you don't believe any of us (which no one can blame you for because internet), go try asking her. See what happens. Be sure to report back!

So you like her. Big deal. This is the here and now, and why waste your efforts trying to score a person who doesn't feel the same about you?

But again, I think the only way you're going to get what we're trying to tell you is if you ask her out. Y'never know - we could all be completely wrong!

As far as the "o god i hate bars how do i meet people," you need to put yourself out there a little and take some risks. I've heard SO MANY whiny children say this shit. I'm not much of an attractive person, and I dislike bars as well, but I seem to do well for myself as far as relationships go.

And I've never once been on an actual date.

Maybe your approach is wrong. I'd say "dating people you work with" is not only a bad approach, but a recipe for disaster.

Ouch. I've never had someone call me whiny before, but that might be because I'm surrounded by yes men, which is why I can never ask my friends for advice.

Also another reason I don't go to bars, is because I don't drink. I've only been drunk twice in my life and that was on new years off of highly loaded punch my friends make. I can't stand the taste of beer. Feel free to call me a wuss, I'm used to it being a guy that hates sports and beer.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

I'm used to it being a guy that hates sports and beer.

You can't be considered a male if you dislike sports AND beer. Its an intergalactic law.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

As far as the "o god i hate bars how do i meet people," you need to put yourself out there a little and take some risks. I've heard SO MANY whiny children say this shit. I'm not much of an attractive person, and I dislike bars as well, but I seem to do well for myself as far as relationships go.

And I've never once been on an actual date.

Well, yeah, but you're dating a guy you met on the internet, aren't you?

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Brent

Well, yeah, but you're dating a guy you met on the internet, aren't you?

Had no intention of dating him from what I saw on the internet. Frankly, I hated who he was here. (He still irks me from time to time on the forums)

And then, we met at a meet and we were both completely different. And hung out after the meet. That's when shit went down.

I had no intention of dating him until I actually met him. I don't know if that counts.

DarkMage, a lot of people don't use bars as a genuine dating generator. I'd advise against it, myself - but plenty would disagree with me. You should try getting into stuff locally or whatever.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

Do you really think I'm that stupid that I wouldn't have thought about whether or not it's allowed at my work? It is, we've got a union and they wouldn't let the stores have a rule like that.

Hey, thanks for reading the rest of my advice! I really appreciate it. However, just so we're clear, let me repeat myself:

Dating a co-worker is a bad idea. If the relationship sours, then the work relationship can also sour. It's better to not be in that position to begin with.

And, here's another bit of advice: You don't have to drink alcohol at bars. Many have non-alcoholic drinks there (and not just water).

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

And then, we met at a meet and we were both completely different. And hung out after the meet. That's when shit went down.

OH SNAP

Anywho, I've read a few scary things in this thread from you, chief. One of the foremost being, effectively, "She's not like other girls, I like her so much, blah blah blah." Isn't that the way you feel about every fucking girl? The answer, though you've doubtless convinced yourself otherwise, is yes. Time will prove me right.

Also, I find myself both amused and surprised to say this, but LeHah is right. There's a fine line when comes to how aware is too aware so far as one's own attractiveness goes, and you don't want a chick on the wrong side of it (or dude, if that's the way you swing your rudder).

And a final note? If you say you don't like beer you haven't had enough of them. I'd issue an open challange to find me someone who doesn't like one single beer.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Leknaat

Hey, thanks for reading the rest of my advice! I really appreciate it. However, just so we're clear, let me repeat myself:

Dating a co-worker is a bad idea. If the relationship sours, then the work relationship can also sour. It's better to not be in that position to begin with.

And, here's another bit of advice: You don't have to drink alcohol at bars. Many have non-alcoholic drinks there (and not just water).

I did read the rest of your advice, I just didn't comment on the rest of it, because I don't necessarily disagree with everything you said. I just felt I had to respond to that particular part. Sorry if you misunderstood my response.

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

And a final note? If you say you don't like beer you haven't had enough of them. I'd issue an open challange to find me someone who doesn't like one single beer.

Toss me a suggestion then. I've tried Corona, Molson, Miller High Life, and Strongbow(Although that's technically not beer). I thought every last one of them tasted like piss. The only alcohol I've drank that I didn't hate was Mike's Hard Lemonade and that hardly counts.

Also, I don't think I quite ever said she's not like other girls. It's just that she's nice, smart, has quite a few things in common with me, and she's beautiful. All 4 of those things combined are pretty rare around here, at least the ones that aren't already taken.

And for the record incase anyone is wondering, no I wasn't sitting there hoping she'd break up with her boyfriend, even though I figured it was inevitable since he plays WoW. I didn't even consider her an option till I found out they broke up.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

And a final note? If you say you don't like beer you haven't had enough of them. I'd issue an open challange to find me someone who doesn't like one single beer.

I've been trying different kinds for a few years now and I still can't find any I like.

It could just be that beer gives me the absolute worst indigestion on earth whenever I have even just one glass.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

That's easy to say, but the thing is, I like her specifically. I don't normally care that I don't have a girlfriend, unless there is someone in particular I like. I don't go out looking for girls, because normally I wouldn't care. If I have no chance with her, I'll just go back to not caring.

There. "Specifically." The way that reads is, "She's not like other girls, I can't go out and meet other girls, because she's so high above me." Thanks for playing.

As for beer.. well, shit. You've tried five beers? Hold the fucking phone! Christ, every beer you've had is piss water. Fact is, if you want a decent drink it's going to cost you. That's the sad state of affairs, so next time you go into a bar pull out your wallet.

Off topic rant.:

Guiness, Yuengling (can't get that in Michigan I don't think), Blue Moon, Sam Adams, any of these, Negra Modela, et al. The list goes on and on brother, and even if it turns out you don't like any beer at all , there's something called liquor. Vodka, whiskey, rum, all of the above. Mixed drinks even. Jesus, what do you kids in Michigan do on Saturday nights?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by RacinReaver

I've been trying different kinds for a few years now and I still can't find any I like.

Can you name some that you've tried? I have an inkling that Frank is correct.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I think the easiest kind of beer for a none beer drinker to start with in the appreciation of the art that is brewing is either white beer or fruit beer (no pun intended). Now I don't know what kind of beers they have in Michigan so I can't really give you too many specifics, although I could suggest Hoeggarden white beer, which is a Belgian beer that I am pretty sure is available in most parts of the industrialised world. Guiness is an exception to this rule, as even though it is a dark beer it has a very sweet taste that can appeal to most anybody.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Remy_Fortin6

I think the easiest kind of beer for a none beer drinker to start with in the appreciation of the art that is brewing is either white beer or fruit beer (no pun intended).

If he's complaining about sour stomache from drinking beer, don't you think these are the things he should avoid? He'd want something with more of a base to it.

How ya doing, buddy?

I was addressing myself more to DarkMageOzzie than to RacinReaver bo you make a very valid point.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Here. It's a listing of Michigan breweries. I don't know where you live, or I'd have made my research a little more specific. That said, on a trip out to California I went to a Brewbaker's, and it turns out you have one in Ann Arbor.

Wish I had known that when I went through.

If you ask me, and this is where I tie it in, a brewery is a great place to meet a chick, especially since you're having trouble finding a beer you like. Chicks dig the whole, "Look at me, I'm so sad," thing, and considering most girls you'll meet at a brewery know their beer, you'll be knocking out two birds with one stone.

Not only do you get some sweet tender love and care, but I garuntee she'll find you at least one beer to enjoy. It'll probably even be local, which has the added bonus of granting you the right to be a drunken snob.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

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If you ask me, and this is where I tie it in, a brewery is a great place to meet a chick, especially since you're having trouble finding a beer you like. Chicks dig the whole, "Look at me, I'm so sad," thing, and considering most girls you'll meet at a brewery know their beer, you'll be knocking out two birds with one stone.

Not only do you get some sweet tender love and care, but I garuntee she'll find you at least one beer to enjoy. It'll probably even be local, which has the added bonus of granting you the right to be a drunken snob.

I'd like to second this motion. Plus, If you get yourself a beer drinking chick who hangs out at breweries, chances are she won't be too much of a hard time to deal with.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by LeHah

Can you name some that you've tried? I have an inkling that Frank is correct.

A good start would be Guiness, Yuengling, Blue Moon, and Sam Adams for the things I've had recently.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

...you've had Yuengling? What were you doing on the east coast? What's more, I'd offer you the same advice I gave our intrepid hero here: Head to a local brewery. They have people at these places who are specifically trained to help people like yourself find something to drink.

Also, maybe you'd like something lighter than those mentioned. I'd try a nice light lager, or maybe even a pale(r) ale. Seasonal beverages often find homes with those who normally dislike beer as well, and this is the season for pumpkin ale and whatnot.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

Jesus, what do you kids in Michigan do on Saturday nights?[/spoiler]

Personally I'm working Saturday nights. Retail sucks. On the bright side I always have new comic day off though.... god did I just type that? I am a dork.

Also, I'll keep everything you guys said in mind.

How ya doing, buddy?

Wheat beer is also popular with most people who are knowldgeable about or like to try different kinds of beer.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

...you've had Yuengling? What were you doing on the east coast? What's more, I'd offer you the same advice I gave our intrepid hero here: Head to a local brewery. They have people at these places who are specifically trained to help people like yourself find something to drink.

The bar closest to my college had $5 Yuengling pitchers every night, so every now and then we'd hit there and get a pizza + pitcher. I could eat a whole goddamned pizza on my own, but give me one slice and one glass of beer and much stomach feels like shit all night.

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Also, maybe you'd like something lighter than those mentioned. I'd try a nice light lager, or maybe even a pale(r) ale. Seasonal beverages often find homes with those who normally dislike beer as well, and this is the season for pumpkin ale and whatnot.

I tend to drink darker beers since I feel light ones taste more like horse piss than anything else. Also had some Sam Adams Harvest Ale or something that I felt was pretty mediocre.

Of course, you're also talking to someone who thinks Diet Pepsi is the pinnacle of beverages, so it might be a bit of a lost cause.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Just alittle follow up for anyone who cares. I finally did ask her out and her answer was "Maybe in the future" because she has alot of stuff going on lately that's driving her crazy so she doesn't want to be in a relationship. But she also kind of went out of her way to tell me it's not because she has anything against me.

While she could be serious, I also know that being she's a girl that she could also be doing the whole trying to reject a guy without hurting his feelings crap like previous girls have done to me. So unless she suddenly shows some sign that she's interested, I'm just going to go on as if she had given me a flat out no.

Anyhow... let the I told you sos begin!

How ya doing, buddy?

You know, this news wasn't even worth updating this thread with...

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by LeHah

You know, this news wasn't even worth updating this thread with...

Yeah... but I was bored. I get off work and then a friend needs me to help him fix something on his computer. Didn't exactly give me time to do much anything so I just did some random forum stuff... Off to sleep I go now...

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

At least there is a CONCLUSION. I am wondering how many threads such as these have a conclusion.

Anyway, I agree. The whole 'not right now' is basically the old-fashioned, 'I don't want to be mean and say no to you so I will be 'kind' and say not right now.'.

Jam it back in, in the dark.