Starting A Conversation.

Okay heres the deal, Im going to be graduating from my adult high school education next week, Now over the term i have taken interest in this girl that comes into the break room everyday before class starts. Shes very quiet, hasn't said a word to anyone in there, she sits alone all the time. I don't even know if she speaks English or not because she looks of Asian or Oreintal descent.

I have never had the experience of starting a conversation with a female before, but i would really like to get to know this girl a bit better and start a small convo before my term is over. I need advice

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What do you mean, you've never had the experience of starting a conversation with a girl before?

You mean to tell us that you've never talked to a girl by your own volition?

Anyways, just comment on something that's going on in class. "Did you catch that?" or "do you have the notes from last class?" or something.

Once you get there, just make conversation about the teacher, or the subject or anything. Maybe she'll perk right up, maybe not. Try to start a dialogue before or after class - and remember - TALKING to people isn't something that requires insane precision or die-hard seriousness. Be casual, and talk to her like she was really ugly or something. Let yourself go.

If you're both completely socially retarded, you're not going to go anywhere. I have a friend who is insanely shy with MEN ONLY.

Just put yourself out there. It's really not as hard as you'd think, once you get the ball rolling.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Well i held good conversations with girls before, but those type i weren't too interested in either or if my friends were there, that was in high school anyway.

But im in a new school right now starting fresh, She doesn't have my class which is a math class that i have for an hour and then im off to work, so im not there for too long. I plan on studying future courses.

But im not really socially retarded, the hard part is just walking up to her and just introduce myself. I really have no idea lol.

Even if i don't see her again, i just want to just get to know her and talk.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by QuentinT

Well i held good conversations with girls before, but those type i weren't too interested in either or if my friends were there, that was in high school anyway.

But im in a new school right now starting fresh, She doesn't have my class which is a math class that i have for an hour and then im off to work, so im not there for too long. I plan on studying future courses.

But im not really socially retarded, the hard part is just walking up to her and just introduce myself. I really have no idea lol.

Even if i don't see her again, i just want to just get to know her and talk.

Ask a question about something you KNOW you both have in common. And run with it from there.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Why do you want to get to know her? Because she is pretty?

If that is the only reason, don't bother. When it comes to relationships, I believe that opposites truly do attract. Your posts imply that you are not particularly outgoing and shy since you are insecure about your ability to initiate conversation.

In short, there's no point of two introverted people hooking up.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Megalith has a point. I remember a few years back when we were going through this thing finding out how people acted and such. For any couples, when they asked about those who were outgoing and those who were quiet, one part of the couple was outgoing, the other was quiet. Every time. And when I think about just about all my married friends, I have noticed that also to be the case. Even my wife and I are opposites in that regards.

That all being said, if she doesn't speak English, or it is her second language, then that may be a reason because it can be VERY intimidating to have to speak in your non-native language. From my own experience, if I have to speak in any of my non-native languages, I tend to become a lot quieter, and less talkative. Granted, as I said, I am more of a quiet type of person, but nonetheless I have found that to be the case with secondary languages.

How to start a conversation. Hmm, well, one idea that popped into my head is to ask her, 'Hey, I didn't get all of that last assignment. Do you know what it was again?'. At least that will get you a start and you can find out a little bit on whether she speaks English, how well, if she's shy, etc.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

There's really no advice in telling someone to start a conversation. I don't even know if the term started or ended, lol, but just make anything that comes up to your head.

Ask her about the subjects in class, say that you don't understand and if she can help you out. Break the ice a little.

There's nothing wrong in being introverted and having sympathy for another introverted person. Take a stab at it and go for it, there's really nothing to lose.

If I were you, I would just start a conversation of things going on in class, whatever subject it may be. Then if you still think you like her, go on to things that interest you - anything, really.

How ya doing, buddy?

I know this is a long shot, but why not just go up to her and say "Hiya, how're you doing"?
If she answers I'd say you're in there m4+4.

Seriously though, my advice stands. She may even appreciate that someone has bothered going up to her and introducing themselves.

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