Larry Oji, Super Moderator, Judge, "Dirge for the Follin" Project Director, VG Frequency Creator

Member 21041

Level 1.73

Mar 2007

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Mar 15, 2007, 11:41 PM
Local time: Mar 15, 2007, 09:41 PM
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#29 of 29
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Look, one thing must be said. girls can come and go. I've seen it. I've even turned my back on friends only to see them there when the girl leaves. Of course now I do make a point to never toss aside so casually the friedns who stood by me. This is my straight out opinion. If your friend has a problem with it, he should say. If he says it's okay, then you need to seriously sit down and talk to him. Make it clear that if he says that he has a problem, that you'll back off. If he says that it's okay again, then go for it. That way, you are clearly giving him a chance to speak up about it. If he chooses not to, then so be it. I don't think that you should be expected to read his thoughts and then make a decision. He should be mature enough to speak what is on his mind. IF he does say that he has a problem with it...then back off. That would be a seriously messed up thing to do. If he says it's okay, then by all means, go for it. Just don't bring up the relationship with him too much. Separate the friendship and the relationship as much as you can. My advice is to confront him a final time. Tell him that you are getting the feeling that he disapproves, despite the fact that he says it's fine. Tell him that you you really care about what he thinks and that it really would bother you if he dispproved of the relationship without telling you. Make sure he knows that whatever response he gives will help make your decision. Then, he should display the maturity to tell you what is really on his mind.
I was speaking idiomatically.
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