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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland
I hate quote wars...they're so tedious.
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Define "Quote War". I'm just quoting your post the better to contextualise my responsese.
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My sister was recently diagnosed with "severe depression," so don't assume I'm one of those people who doesn't believe in depression, OK?
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I really don't assume that, Alice. However, I do disagree with you that you can bring about any meaningful adjustment to the attitude of a child who doesn't wish to change his attitude. You can't do it by discussion, and you can't do it by corporal punisment. All you can do is to cow the child, force them to toe the line, and force them to conceal their real attitude. If that's enough for you, then fine.
In order to achieve meaningful change, though, a person of any age needs to actually want to change. The best way, in my opinion, to bring this about is to show that person the rewards of change. For example, if the hypothetical child to which we are referring stops being angsty, and moping about in his room, he can get a job, and earn money with which to buy eyeliner and Linkin Park records.
For the record, I'm actually very sorry that I questioned your parenting skills. I still agree with Cyrus XIII that you "seem to lack any empathy for the emotional sensibilities of other people", but God knows that's not something which gives me cause to be so rude.
I actually do believe in corporal punishment, but not as motivator to change the attitude of a child. I believe in it as the ultimate sanction, for behaviour which is simply
way out of line. For example, if I had children, and I found out that one of them had knowingly used a racist term of abuse, I'd be damn sure to slap his ass. However, I fail to actually see the wrongdoing involved in being angsty. Even if the child in question has no actual problems, I believe that greater results would be achieved as a result of discussion, rather than punishment.
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Originally Posted by Alice
we're probably going to have to call a truce on this one.
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Assuming you were addressing me on this one, I think that I've apologised sufficently for my own rudeness, and clarified my position to the point where mutual respect can exist, so... pax?
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Originally Posted by daxy
Actually Emo is nothing else then a style of hair clothes and music.
A lot of my friends are "emo" but are not depressed in the slightest. They just dress in the type of clothes the majority wants them to wear and put their hair all "emo" and listen to bands like atreyu and you name it.
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This is true. There are two subsets of "emo", which intersect to a certain degree. Emo and agnsty, or Emo-style. A former work-colleague of mine dressed in a very Emo style, but he was among the more cheerful and motivated people I've had the priveledge to know.
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