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Only this time his stance on the whole thing was to just "see what happens" and he never really mentioned her unless he was on the other line with her (if I called) or something. He's been with her for a few months now and it's definitely the best relationship he's been in.
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Of course. The problem with obsession is that you become attached to an
idealized view of someone and it becomes the center of your life. You don't see the other person's faults, or really even see them for who they actually are. At the same time, you lose yourself and try to put forward this facade that you think is what the other person wants to see. All you have in mind is this perfect portrait you've painted in your own head. The moment something threatens that obsession, its a huge emotional disaster you just assume its your own fault since it couldn't possibly be the other party's fault--they are
perfect. Take the time to get to know someone and don't make them the ideal center of your universe, and you'll have a good shot at a good relationship.
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Basically, let her make the first move, because rejection sucks
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Which is why you need to accept the fact that you
will face rejection, and you need to suck it up and move on. Not everyone is going to like you. How far do you think you can really get if you just stick your hands in your pockets and wait for someone else to make the first move for you?
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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