Sexual past.

Your girlfriend sounds a lot like someone that I was ... involved with some years ago. I wanted to be the knight in shining armor (not literally) that would save her from all of her pain and sorrow. Yeah, I was immature at these things and it all failed horribly.

I've matured to the point that past sexual history--aside from STDs or other circumstances that would have a direct impact on the current. relationship--is not something I really even think about, let alone am bothered by it.

Digging into someone's sexual past, and then feeling contempt for what they did before they even really knew you comes off as being haughty. and judgmental. And I do mean sexual in particular. This society (United States) has a way of classing people based on their sexual behaviors. You are either a slut or a prude. Abstinence is old fasioned, but promiscuity is dirty.

So I don't really care about sexual past. How can I expect someone to save themselves for a person they hadn't really met or really knew? It would upset me much more to learn that my significant other had been either emotionally or physically abused and my anger would not be directed at her.

Jam it back in, in the dark.