friends with benefits could turn into...something more serious?

Don't do it. I would have advised against the whole "friends with benefits" thing in the first place, because the very scenario you describe ends up happening every time. The long and short of it is that you want a relationship, but he doesn't. Unless you really think you have a robot-like control over your emotions, which I'm guessing is not the case, you're better off aborting gracefully while you still can, before it gets all emotionally ugly.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Traumatized Rat

I know you say you like being 'used' because you want to feel loved, but your relationship will not go beyond where it is now.

Whoa, ComradeTande, did you really say this?

Scrub this notion from your head this very instant. I've been down that road, and you do not want to go that way. You're imagining that making somebody else happy by letting them 'use' you will bring you a sense of self-worth, but this is dead wrong.

What you're going to realize, one way or the other, is that when you let a person use you, he you doesn't care about you in the slightest. You are just A means to his end, and he could just as easily discard you and get what he wants from someone else. That's the point at which you realize you haven't gained anything at all. No emotional fulfillment, no feelings of being loved - you've just been used. That's what it means to be used.

Take my word for it, this is worse than simply not being loved by anyone. Under that scenario, you're not being loved AND you're being debased in the process. Don't try to stick with your friend thinking that his pleasure will be your pleasure; there won't actually be any reciprocation, and you'll hate yourself in the end.

There's nowhere I can't reach.