Dating for musicians...?

Music is important to me as well. I dated a girl in high school who had totally different taste in music from me. I'll admit, it was tough but it is something that you will have to adapt to. Understandably, music is your passion however if you really like the girl you will learn to compromise. For the most part, you are being too judgemental and critical. Music taste is only a small dimensions or a person's personality and should not be the dealbreaker here. I'm sure you can find a handful of reasons to stay with her despite the disagreements in music.

But in all honesty, you definitely sound like a huge asshole in your opening post.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

The only thing I question now is am I really trying to be an elitist, or am I just normal and all of you have settled for something less than what you expect?

You are an Elitist.
A normal personal understands that relationships involve compromising. That does not mean we are settling for less, we are just realistic with our outlook on other people. We understand that differences can be overlooked. We acknowledge those differences and continue to grow mentally and emotionally.

I dont think anyone mentioned that music taste is subjective. Music has many layers. There may be an element of sentiment and experience that makes a piece of music more memorable to someone else but not you that you will never have. In addition, lyrics can have tremendous weight on the signicance of a piece. For many songs, the lyrics are the selling point even if the musicality is lacking.

Before you go around judging people for their taste in music, take a step back and analyze your own. You cannot honestly believe that your preference is flawless? Because if you do, then that is whole other issue you have to deal with. Other than that, keep your mind open and understand that DIFFERENT people have DIFFERENT tastes. It wouldn't kill you to try to accept that.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Whoa! He actually listened to lurker. I guess we should thank her.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

lurker is a her? oops
and btw, i've dated someone for 2 years. felt like they were holding me back from bigger things though to be honest.

If thats really how you feel then your problem is with dating in general. Maybe at this point in your life, it isn't right for you. Anyways, this should probably be moved into ANGST if things continue as they are.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

You know, I tried to censor some of my thoughts but Nadi really hit what I have to say on the nose. The number of self-righteous, self-taught musicians who are condescending and elitist bother me. Teaching yourself something doesn't make you better or worse. Additionally, a relationshps isnt about "changing" another person to be more like yourself. Instead of asking your internet friends about this issue, why don't you say what you told us in your first post to a group of women. That should work well to teach you that the world does not center around your perspective and opinions on matters.

I was speaking idiomatically.