marrying a lover

Does anyone ever marry a lover?

You know, someone who understands you. You don't have to say anything. When you are with them most times, everything seems to be understood. When you are with each other, the primary focus is about expressing your love to each other. As in, you go on a date to eat, walk around, go bowling, go with a group, but instead decide to skip the fun and go for the passion --go to the back seat and spend the hours mouths tied and bodies twisted.

It seems that the bond in most marriages emphasize the fun part of a relationship -- where you are constantly wanting to do activities (sports, gatherings, etc.... not just sex) together.

I don't really know what to make of it. In the book, Brave New World (Aldous Huxley), a relationship consists of playing trifulous sports (centrifugal bumblepuppy, the wierd mini golf) and going to movies (feelies) all of the time and then having sex to satisfy the physical desire.

Is Huxley making fun of the relationships that are almost all orientated that way or is this just a fact of life -- the passionate couple is/was never meant for a marriage?

Of course there is some healthy balance to this. I mean, a lover partner is not just 100% lover and nothing else (no communication or social life), but a balance of everything in a relationship with the passionate side being the majority of the weight (importance).

thoughts? perhaps I need to expand?

Jam it back in, in the dark.