Dating for musicians...?

Here's my problem. I meet girls, and some of them are so damn hot, good looking, cute, but I date them and then I realize... they will never hear sound the way I hear it. And call me an elitest, but when I realize that they will never hear music as beautifully as I hear it, I look find myself looking down on them, believing that my perspectives on life are of deeper and greater meaning than theirs.

So what kind of girls do you all date? I don't know what I'm looking for anymore. I mean, I'd love someone who could play violin/piano duets with me, but I find these girls so rare (or at least where I live) to have talent and good looks... or when I find them, they are so jaded by society they don't really give a shit to use the talent they have. But recently I met a girl, REAL pretty, and very attractive. Great personality and conversationalist, but she can't keep rhythm, nor can she play an instrument... or sing! sigh. Maybe I should just settle? :eyebrow:

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Originally Posted by Denicalis

You need to relax and come down off your high horse a little.

Well, don't you feel like the woman you date shouldn't at least have the ability to comprehend music? Or am I really being a dick here? Like seriously, let me know, cause obviously I can't tell =/

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Originally Posted by mrosok

I don't think I need a girl who is a musician though, but she would have to be able to understand why I spend so much time with my music, and she should have a passion of her own.

I think you should look at what other qualities are important in a relationship than being able to talk about music.

My problem, I think, is that you're right, music is a huge part of my life, and I don't want to waste my life "teaching" someone about music no matter how great we get along.

It's a problem of sacrificing "musical development" with another musican of any caliber, or just dating someone I'm attracted to in personality.

But mrosok I think you're right. I suppose if music is my passion, and she has hers, then it should be chill. And if we can both appriciate eachothers passions, then I can just grow with musician friends. You're right, why does my lover have to also share the exact same interest... that would definetly be a bore (as many others had said here).

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by guyinrubbersuit

Wow. I hope you're self taught only and no one ever taught you. Ever.

I am. I found beauty in music by myself, with no one to aid me except the internet and the Concert Hall.

It seems that everyone here agrees that A. I shouldn't be so close minded and more open minded. The only thing I question now is am I really trying to be an elitist, or am I just normal and all of you have settled for something less than what you expect?

But on the other hand, I think I am being unrealistic and am seeking a perfect, non-existant girl?

If anything, thanks for all the replies cause they definetly dropped me ego down a notch or two. Like I said before, I think I will shoot for this girl and as long as she can respect me for what I do, I will respect her for what she does. I mean she does make me happy... so I guess there is nothing more to ask for. Although I sometimes wonder - is it possible for me to be happier?

But that's just human selfishness kicking in.

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Originally Posted by a lurker

Ths whole thing isn't even about the deep spiritual connection you have due to your hobby of singing or playing an instrument, or even composing music, but simply because you like more estoric stuff? Get over yourself, sir. The thing that wows me the most is that, the girl in question doesn't have bad taste so much as you are dead certain you appreciate the subtle beauty of music more than she does. Wow.

With normal people, "settling for what you can get" usually involves someone met later on in life, or someone who is dumb, or someone who is poor. A person who is not the carbon copy of you is not 'settling', sir. I get the distinct impression that you never had a relationship past the two month mark. Until you get experiences with dating people, you have no right talking about settling. You don't know.

lol o shit. hmm.. well said man. I needed that.

I was speaking idiomatically.

lurker is a her? oops
and btw, i've dated someone for 2 years. felt like they were holding me back from bigger things though to be honest.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Well, this weekend I went out with a girl. She asked me to play some piano for her so I played her a piece. Afterward I asked her what she thought and she said "Oh it just sounded like notes to me, but good job, very pretty."

How am I supposed to respect that? I don't think her perspective is deeper than mine, sorry. Seriously.

I think my problem is just that my campus is full of idiots. Because I've definetly met kids who are up to par with my self-declared "wisdom" but as nobody worth mentioning at my college campus. I'm not even trying to be an egoist but do you know what I mean? It's like when you were a senior in HS and you were picking on freshman. I'm a senior in college but I feel a majority of the seniors here are still freshman. *shrug

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Originally Posted by My Dreams

Hey rocketdog, watch it. She may be able to play the Rachmaninov 3rd Concerto backwards and might saying that as an euphemism for your 'imperfect legato'. Haha... just kidding. Anyway, I think your expectations are too high. Try lowering it and you might just meet someone you really want to be with.

Haha, if a chick made a joke like you just did, I'd so date her! :biggrin:
Where are those women!?

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