Don't know what to do.

From what I've heard from Sass your situation is neither simple nor happy. Marrying too soon, whether it was for the right reasons or not, is not your main issue, however. Especially since you are committed to that, whether you like it or not.

If your main problem is you're not happy with your job, I'd say you're also stuck with that until you muster the funds to move or look into getting a new job. Either way, I'd suggest moving towards where people do live. I can't imagine demand for many jobs outside of farming, logging or manufacturing being too booming in Idaho.

Long story short, your goal should be to save some money and either make the best of your situation or try and move and reset your situation. This will all take time and patience, and, of course, bravery. You should set goals that better fit your hopes and intentions, should you have any solid ones. That way, you can also plan what to do to meet those goals, and build morale, conviction, hope and resolve. Your wife should be just as interested in achieving those goals with you, if you can mutually agree that they are best for your future.

School and student loans are a gamble. Would you be committed to an associate's or bachelor's degree? Do you know what you could major in? If your situation isn't good or the status quo is on shaky ground I wouldn't recommend leaping into loans before you know you could pay them off in a reasonable amount of time.

Jam it back in, in the dark.