sometimes i feel like I'm in love with you

What does that mean? the girl I've been pursuing told me that the other day, she's aware that i like her but she doesn't really want a relationship

She told me that though today...she told me also her fears of a relationship with me that were petty, things like people would say "told you so" and stuff like that.


this sometimes i feel like I'm in love with you, is it something that can develop? or something shes just saying to keep me close with her out of fear i might stop being her friend if i think all hope is lost?

girls, tell me something, under what circumstances would you tell a person this?

mind you she loves me, plutonically, and would never try and hurt me or lie to me. shes been in love before and shes still in love with this person, even though they are long gone, which is she would have trouble being with me, knowing she was still in love with another....but if she says she feels like she's in love with me sometimes...idk, i see hope.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Ayos

In my opinion, love is strong and never unsure of itself. If you love, you love, period. There's no "sometimes" or "I think" or "things change" or "I did but not anymore." You either do or you don't.

So. My diagnosis? She's trying her hardest to get over this lost love of hers, and thinks maybe she can find that in you but doesn't want to pursue it for a combination of fears - fear that she'll be hurt, fear that you'll be hurt, fear that it'll work and she'll forget about the other guy, fear that she isn't secure enough in herself to warrant a healthy relationship right now (which obviously, she isn't.)

My response would be simply "When you figure it out, let me know." Then don't speak of it again. If at some point you love her, tell her, but don't expect anything in return.

I think you're absolutely right. It's kind of like you know this girl or something... all the other responses are untrue, she won't use that against me (the factor that im in love with her) and use it to keep me close. We've been through that and I told her that I will be your friend and stay with you no matter what, friend or lover, and that if the time comes, you will want a relationship with me.

like you said though, her lost love is the hardest part. She told me its hard for her to have those feelings for others since that person, and she still talks to that person once in awhile, knowing that if we went out that person might not talk to her again....but that might not be for the worst.


but yeah....i think you're dead. she's trying, but unsure. shes told me herself shes almost positive she would have fallen in love with me if she wasn't already in love. which is probably true.

There's nowhere I can't reach.