sometimes i feel like I'm in love with you
 

What does that mean? the girl I've been pursuing told me that the other day, she's aware that i like her but she doesn't really want a relationship

She told me that though today...she told me also her fears of a relationship with me that were petty, things like people would say "told you so" and stuff like that.


this sometimes i feel like I'm in love with you, is it something that can develop? or something shes just saying to keep me close with her out of fear i might stop being her friend if i think all hope is lost?

girls, tell me something, under what circumstances would you tell a person this?

mind you she loves me, plutonically, and would never try and hurt me or lie to me. shes been in love before and shes still in love with this person, even though they are long gone, which is she would have trouble being with me, knowing she was still in love with another....but if she says she feels like she's in love with me sometimes...idk, i see hope.

My instinct is that it's fodder for your crush because she finds said crush useful in someway, and would like it to continue. I'm pretty cynical when it comes to remarks like this. A lot of women, when they know that a certain man has a crush on them won't hesitate to use that fact to their advantage

In my opinion, love is strong and never unsure of itself. If you love, you love, period. There's no "sometimes" or "I think" or "things change" or "I did but not anymore." You either do or you don't.

So. My diagnosis? She's trying her hardest to get over this lost love of hers, and thinks maybe she can find that in you but doesn't want to pursue it for a combination of fears - fear that she'll be hurt, fear that you'll be hurt, fear that it'll work and she'll forget about the other guy, fear that she isn't secure enough in herself to warrant a healthy relationship right now (which obviously, she isn't.)

My response would be simply "When you figure it out, let me know." Then don't speak of it again. If at some point you love her, tell her, but don't expect anything in return.

I've never said that, nor would I ever say that. Love usually isnt a 'sometimes' thing for women, at least not in my experiences. Like Ayos said, you either do or you dont, and she isnt giving you a definite answer in saying that.

The only thing I can think of even similar to that is something like 'sometimes I feel like we're married', but that's just a comment on how much time people spend together.

I dunno, I don't think you should put any meaning behind those words. Sounds sketchy to me, and is certainly not something I (or any of my other female friends) would say casually.

I think you're absolutely right. It's kind of like you know this girl or something... all the other responses are untrue, she won't use that against me (the factor that im in love with her) and use it to keep me close. We've been through that and I told her that I will be your friend and stay with you no matter what, friend or lover, and that if the time comes, you will want a relationship with me.

like you said though, her lost love is the hardest part. She told me its hard for her to have those feelings for others since that person, and she still talks to that person once in awhile, knowing that if we went out that person might not talk to her again....but that might not be for the worst.


but yeah....i think you're dead. she's trying, but unsure. shes told me herself shes almost positive she would have fallen in love with me if she wasn't already in love. which is probably true.

Something like that happened to me once. I was good friends with this girl. We used to work together and hang out after work. The whole office used to tease us that something was going on.

She had a b/f that didn't make her happy. She would say things to me like "I wish my b/f was like you." or "If I wasn't with him, I would definatly be with you." Even to the point that she once told me "If I wasn't involved with him, I would definatly be having sex with you." Not sure what that was, but she was really cute and we got along otherwise.

P.S. She finally broke up with her b/f and then started giving me the cold shoulder, but now I am happily married to a much more compatable woman and much happier than I could have been with the other girl.

So, no matter what happens, it is always for the best, even if it doesn't seem that way at the time. They're millions of girls out there if this one doesn't work out.

Good luck.

Look, it seems to me either of two things. She doesn't really love you like that and wants to keep you as a closer friend, or she's lining you up. She may be considering using you as a backup if her first choices don't work out. Regardless of what the situation is, get out of it. Just as everyone else said before, when you want to be in a strong relationship with someone, there are no excuses. Find someone who won't give you any. I wish you the best. ^_^