Totally fucked up

Look, your problem i-

No, you know what, forget it. Go back through this stupid fucking subforum and look up every other clone of this post that's been made. There's about a million of them. Look at the advice there. Get over yourself, and grow up. High school?



high school!?

Fuck, I'm tired of these thread topics.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by blue

I had a similar thing happen, I suppose. Guy and I dated ~3.5 years, then I broke up with him at the end of his high school year/my first year in college.

It was terribly traumatizing, really, and I used to go over in my head again and again why exactly I did it. And as cliche as it sounds, I think it's because we were going in different directions. I realized that there were a lot of things about him that I could not live with: the way he handled money, his insistence on following every little ridiculous rule, our vastly dissimilar personalities...

But you know what? He's married now, to a very sweet girl who is so much more like him than I could have ever been. I think they're both kind of boring, frankly. But they found each other, and I think they are very happy. This is not to say that you are boring--chances are, you're not. But give yourself some time. Something about long-term high school relationships can make them difficult to shake off--perhaps because they are such formative years, and you find yourself forming dependence upon a certain person (if you spend all your time with him or her).

Hope that helps. Best of luck to you.

No, long term high school relationships are difficult to shake off in high school because you have the emotional maturity of a gnat. Some people are quicker to grow out of that than others, I've noticed. Such formative years? Get over yourself. High school is one of the least important parts of your life. You'll learn that eventually. I get that to you it's important, because it's the only thing you've really experienced, but you're giving the kid absolutely horrible advice. If you'd paid attention to other posts he's made, you know he probably has several social disorders, and -that's- why he's wigging out over this stuff, not because he's a Romeo and Juliet reject. Learn the situation before you talk, kid. As you've been doing a lot lately, you're just making a fool of yourself. Go back to Blunder where your opinion is appreciated.

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Originally Posted by niki

You know, there's something quite hilarious in the fact you keep saying you hate these threads and yet systematically use them to wave your HUGE EXPERIENNNCED PEEENIIISSSS at people's face.

I hate them because it's the same problem a million times, and if people would just open their eyes, it wouldn't even be an issue. Notice I'm not talking about sex here, frenchman, I'm talking about letting a childish emotional attachment cripple you. I also refuse to let people get horrible advice about how it's completely ok to be a social pariah, and that doing nothing is the way to fix the problem. I mean, being an utter berke might work for you, but the world at large doesn't have that ability.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I think maybe blue is innocently confusing "long-term high school relationship" with "first love."

First loves, you have to admit, are always the most crushing to lose. You never love that blindly ever again.

(Or maybe I'm just a moron. I am sure Deni will put me in my place shortly =p )

Nine times out of ten, your first love is so important because of nostalgia, not actual emotions. You were what, 15? 16? Really? You honestly think you were actually in love with someone in a deep and meaningful way? I just don't buy it. The world isn't Romeo and Juliet, and that boy never loved her anyway.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Mine was in high school too - but I think there's definitely a difference between labeling it as a "high school" thing and a deeply emotional "first love" thing.

High school has nothing to do with the "love" bit, suppose. ^_^ (It really is inconsequential, all that high school shit)

And my point exactly.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by niki

Yeah I'm so pissed off the guys in the Nintendo forums talk about the same Nintendo stuff all the time as well, I mean, goddammit, it's not like the forum is here for that.

Whatever though, I usually like when you go rough-advice-mode. Just don't act like you don't take pleasure in rolling your deep, scorny, patronizing mouth everytime you get an occasion.

Oh, I love being a patronizing prick, sir. But I'd like if the question at least varied in phrasing. This was my point.

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Originally Posted by niki

I think it's worth noting that both are girls. Yeah, us and them don't really work the same way, emotionally. /newsflash

Which is another reason I was attacking Deni' stance, btw. <3

And I dunno, these threads may have at least the benefic psychologic effect that writing things down can bring ?

That "boys and girls think differently" thing is such a cop out. And high school relationships are a joke, no matter what the gender is. Most of my female friends look back on high school and wonder why they thought everything was so serious. It's not about gender at that point, it's about age and maturity.

I treasure my first love in high school. I love all sorts of things about it. But we were like, 14 or 15. You know what? The drama wasn't really that dramatic. We got worked up over stupid things that seemed important at the time. But now? Ridiculous.

And yes, niki, they're probably very cathartic. And a lot of people just need to be told that it goes away, and if you just suck it up you get by. In fact, I'd wager the huge majority of them. Which is why we continue to post in these threads when they pop up, instead of just ignoring them. Because on some level, clearly we want to help.

I was speaking idiomatically.