Dating for musicians...?

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Here's my problem. I meet girls, and some of them are so damn hot, good looking, cute, but I date them and then I realize... they will never hear sound the way I hear it. And call me an elitest, but when I realize that they will never hear music as beautifully as I hear it, I look find myself looking down on them, believing that my perspectives on life are of deeper and greater meaning than theirs.

That is... wow... honestly that is one of the most arrogant things I've ever heard, Rocket. I'm a musician myself, and I winced when I read this. This isn't a matter of not finding the right woman, it's about having a glaring character flaw and alienating people with it. You need to relax and come down off your high horse a little.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Well, don't you feel like the woman you date shouldn't at least have the ability to comprehend music? Or am I really being a dick here? Like seriously, let me know, cause obviously I can't tell =/

I admit that I prefer it if she can talk music with me, but I also prefer it if she digs Final Fantasy VI. However, I don't need it for a functional relationship. By basically stating "if she doesn't dig on musical theory, I can't respect her" you're saying that she has to bend to your habits, your hobbies. Why is it that important? Maybe she knows more about philosophy than you, or literature. Is it fair for her to say you don't understand Richard Rorty's treatise on language as it relates to personhood, so you're beneath her? I'm just saying that what you need to do is find a middleground, rather than forcing them into this tiny little box you've created. You can't learn something from your partner if they're identical to you, mate. Embrace the differences, enjoy music the way you want to, and don't expect everyone to understand it. It's something that's unique to you, and not everyone can have that. Just enjoy music in your own way, try and let them see what it does for you, and if they get it, great... if not, don't push it. Just relax and enjoy them for their qualities, instead of trying to enjoy them for yours.

There's nowhere I can't reach.