Moving in with your significant other

Originally Posted by Azral

statistically... apparently it doubles the chances of divorce in the future... but thats just a statistic and probably a load of crap.

I am of the opinion that it either makes or breaks your relationship.

Moving in with someone is a BIG BIG DECISION. I would always recommend it to ANY couple who thinks they may be together for the longterm. I would also insist that it's best to move in with your fiance before you marry them.

It is a huge test in a relationship. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but when you h ave to work out money issues, living arrangements, and actually MELD the styles of living that each person has formed over time, you've got a potential a-bomb on your hands.

There's a ton of compromise and work involved in moving in with a person. It can be either extremely rewarding or a complete disaster.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Belladonna

I don't believe in stats. It's just a number and that number has no effect on you personally. Just because 50% of people divorce doesn't mean you will too. Everyone is different.

Super easy to say you don't believe in stats when you think you're not one of them.

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My boyfriend and I do not live together but are planning to do so very soon. We work together and I see him for 90% of the day, weekdays and weekends. We do everything togther and although most people would consider that a badthing in terms of "getting sick of the other person", we've been together 3 years and it never gets dull. It's almost liek we do live together and people can say that, because of how much we see each other, it will ruin the relationship, I just laugh. No one knows how close we are and how much fun we have. He doesn't have to spend all that time with me but he does. He always wants us to go out and do something together.

You're rather idealistic, aren't you. Do you think that because you spend all your waking time together that you're going to be able to manage a household easily? Because believe me. It's not as easy as you think it is. There are bills to be split, issues to be resolved, and no matter how much you love your significant other, sometimes you get to an impasse.

And I am sure people out there are pretty sure that they're very close to their partner too. "No one knows how close we are and how much fun we have" says absolutely NOTHING about living together.

Because a relationship isn't about fun alone. Its about difficulties too.

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Just don't let anyone tell you otherwise and don't even bother looking at stats. It's up to you and your boyfriend to make it work. I'm sure you will do fine ^_^

The stats speak volumes. But I don't think they're quite planning on getting married from what I read in the first post.

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