The "Line"

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Originally Posted by a_licenwondrland
I married my cousin, although he's not a close cousin, and it's not as big a deal as people make it out to be. It's very common in many cultures to marry a relative.

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I wouldn't date anyone of another race or religion. There are just too many cultural differences, and marriage is hard enough without all the disagreements that would arise as a result of being raised in such different environments.

Here, ladies and gentlemen, we see Alice's pool of suitors. Now we know why she married her cousin.

I think, Alice, that you shouldn't be telling people HOW HARD it is to jive with a person from a different cultural, religious, or ethnic background. This is YOUR preference, and to some of us, that shit is completely inconsequential.

Of course, if you're looking for the male clone of yourself, you'll only continue to see things in tunnel vision. There ain't no harm in learning new shit, woman.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Secret Squirrel

1.) Alice is from a previous generation. A lot of things have changed in 20 years. Racial, cultural, religious, and gender differences are a lot less important than in previous generations, even blurred.

Alice is hardly from "a different generation." She's rather young, from what I understand. While she's only ONE generation ahead of me (I think), she has been around for mostly the same shit. She probably graduatedhigh school sometime in the 80s? Maybe 90's? Theres not a HUGE relationship gap between then and now. Don't act like she's 60, SS.

I think she's just a part of the South. ^_^ (Just laugh at that Alice. *SMILE*)

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2.) Most of you would 'draw the line' at dating someone who was an evangelical fundamentalist Christian, or who was a rabid pro-war Bush supporter. (And I'm not talking about flings or short-term sexual relationships ... I mean for long-term with potential of raising a family.) It's not because you're closed-minded or intolerant; it's because you have a clear idea what kind of life you want to have.

It really depends on each individual.

The REASONS she listed aren't the same as everyone else has. Man, if she wants to stay within her own pool of suitors which is pretty much limited to whatever she WANTS - thats her call. Apparently she thinks, its like, impossible to have a relationship work out with a Jew because of trivial, petty bullshit. Which, you know, NEVER makes sense to me personally.

And I am sure you can understand why a lot of us are in the same boat. We think it's pretty stupid, I guess. But again, she's got her own guidelines - and she's got that right dude. I know I just DONT GET IT.

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I know it's easy and fun giving Alice a hard time, because she does give us a lot of material to work with, but this issue is just lame.

Maybe you're lame. =p

Just try to understand WHY people are all over her for it. Its a matter of difference in opinion and priority. Don't act like we're the bad guys here - NONE of us are. INCLUDING Alice.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Secret Squirrel

She lives in the South. That's likely the majority demographic there, so it isn't quite as tight a limit as you claim.

We should encourage people to stay within their own religions, ethnic backgrounds, and cultures though! ABSOLUTELY.

It is a great practice! Everyone should try to follow those guidelines!

Hey Alice. What would you do if one of your kids brought home a Muslim.

(This is actually a HUGE topic in my house - I am not asking you to make fun of you. I want to see what you think of the topic.)

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland
...Jewish guy steers clear of shrimp and Christmas trees, but the risks are higher. I just chose not to chance it.

Wait. Whats wrong with not having a tree and refusing to eat shrimp?

I personally think you would LOVE the Jewish culture thing.

But you never know until you try~

Ulysses, I lolled.

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