are these signs? or friendly compassion?

Sounds like you're being used to get as much attention at the poor girl wants. SHE sounds more confused than you do.

And yea, just because she's never been kissed on the mouth doesn't mean she's not a slut. What she's taunting you with doesn't exactly sound like she's an idiot in what she's doing.

It would also help if we knew if you were a guy or a girl, Bredow. And if you've had any conversations with this young lady regarding your emotions towards her?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Bredow

she always has convos with me about how shes afraid she will be alone forever, and noone will ever love her. the way we act is as we were in a relationship, but i just have that fear becuase of last time

Right there, you solidified my case. She's afraid to be alone. She wants to feel loved. She needs to feel wanted. You're playing right into her needs and giving her everything she wants, but not getting what you want.

It's a fucked up thing people do - they'll play you like a fiddle to get what they need - more often than not, completely unintentionally.

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i know this girl too, shes really really good. morals, honest, i know shes never done anything

That's nice and all, but the girl is playing head games. She's not relationship material, and I wouldn't recommend fooling around with her, either.

She's the kind of girl who wants you to want her, but when you finally do, she'll get sick of you and move on to someone new. She likes to feel the newness of someone liking her, someone wanting her.

If you do not give her the affection and attention she needs, she'll up the ante. She'll start talking about emotions, she'll try to rope you in but feeding you the line that she DOES like you and maybe she would consider a relationship! If you fool around with her, she may even get to feeling something, and if that should happen, some things may go awry. These sorts don't usually have the ability to control their emotions too well.

It's all a very, very interesting game. Kind of like closing a sale on a new vehicle. You give enough to reel the customer in, but once they've taken the bait, they've sealed their own fate. It's just a matter of whether or not you want to offer up customer service to the poor guy who bought your shitty car. (Okay, so I took that metaphor kind of FAR.)

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she wouldnt ever lead me on either.....i know this too, but could she be doing it unintentionally?

She probably IS doing it unintentionally. Most females do it unintentionally, with absolutely no goal of hurting anyone. They're just looking to feel something - get their fix of emotion and stability.

But I can assure you that this is not a sign of stability as a person.

And because it often matters, how old are you two? College-aged girls seem to practice this unintentional method a lot, from what I can tell. A lot of women never grow out of it.

There's nowhere I can't reach.