are these signs? or friendly compassion?
 

Im in love with my best friend, who is a girl, who is bi.

alright, ive been wanting to ask her out for some time now.

i dont think she likes me, its a vibe i get, i mean we hang out every day for hours on end and she says how much she likes it, but i idk...im pussy


she also lets me put my hand in her pants, rub her vagina outside her pants, feel up her breasts, kiss/bite her check/neck/ears and upper chest

sometimes she lies on top of me and i put my hand down her pants and grab her ass, bareass

the point is...our relationship is very very....physical, and this is a very very emotional girl, shes no slut, shes never even been kissed on the lips

are the above thigns i mentioned signs of her interest? or is she jsut madd horney

like would she have siad something to me by now?


any help would be great...im mad confused

Sounds like you're being used to get as much attention at the poor girl wants. SHE sounds more confused than you do.

And yea, just because she's never been kissed on the mouth doesn't mean she's not a slut. What she's taunting you with doesn't exactly sound like she's an idiot in what she's doing.

It would also help if we knew if you were a guy or a girl, Bredow. And if you've had any conversations with this young lady regarding your emotions towards her?

Is this a joke?

im a guy shes a girl

ive known her for a few years, we are VERY close

i asked her out once about three years ago, and it took her 5 days but she finally said no....this is why i ahve so much doubt

she told me she was scared of relations....she even turned down a relationship from a really hot chick who she DID like for a fact....so shes kinda crazy. i feel like she secure enough with me now though so she would say yes.

she always has convos with me about how shes afraid she will be alone forever, and noone will ever love her. the way we act is as we were in a relationship, but i just have that fear becuase of last time


i know this girl too, shes really really good. morals, honest, i know shes never done anything

she wouldnt ever lead me on either.....i know this too, but could she be doing it unintentionally?

She wouldn't lead you on and she lets you do that stuff? I knew someone like that a long time ago; a lot of fun but not relationship material. I think you are more in lust than in love, because all the things you have described so far concerning this relationship don't even have to involve love at all.

Have fun with her by all means, as much as you can, but don't expect her to fall into your arms head-over-heels in love either. I don't see it happening.

What Snoopy said. Man, I'm surprised you guys haven't had sex yet.

She sounds a little knocked up in the head. By "not leading you on", I don't even want to know what you think "leading you on" is. I say move on... she doesn't seem like she's into commitance.

Right there, you solidified my case. She's afraid to be alone. She wants to feel loved. She needs to feel wanted. You're playing right into her needs and giving her everything she wants, but not getting what you want.

It's a fucked up thing people do - they'll play you like a fiddle to get what they need - more often than not, completely unintentionally.

That's nice and all, but the girl is playing head games. She's not relationship material, and I wouldn't recommend fooling around with her, either.

She's the kind of girl who wants you to want her, but when you finally do, she'll get sick of you and move on to someone new. She likes to feel the newness of someone liking her, someone wanting her.

If you do not give her the affection and attention she needs, she'll up the ante. She'll start talking about emotions, she'll try to rope you in but feeding you the line that she DOES like you and maybe she would consider a relationship! If you fool around with her, she may even get to feeling something, and if that should happen, some things may go awry. These sorts don't usually have the ability to control their emotions too well.

It's all a very, very interesting game. Kind of like closing a sale on a new vehicle. You give enough to reel the customer in, but once they've taken the bait, they've sealed their own fate. It's just a matter of whether or not you want to offer up customer service to the poor guy who bought your shitty car. (Okay, so I took that metaphor kind of FAR.)

She probably IS doing it unintentionally. Most females do it unintentionally, with absolutely no goal of hurting anyone. They're just looking to feel something - get their fix of emotion and stability.

But I can assure you that this is not a sign of stability as a person.

And because it often matters, how old are you two? College-aged girls seem to practice this unintentional method a lot, from what I can tell. A lot of women never grow out of it.

So, wait, she "lets" you grope her and kiss her or she encourages you to do it?

I have female friends, too, but I generally don't put my hands down their crotches.

The way I see this going is that you guys become friends with benefits. If this pleases you, then continue. If not, let her know how you feel and if she says she doesn't want to date, then I guess it's up to you. I'd go with the friends with benefits option, myself.

You've never kissed her on the lips? And, yet she freely allows you to grope her body? That poor thing is beyond confused, she's looking for help in all the wrong places. You seem protective of her, which is great, but reading what everyone is typing is most important. It's not knocks against the girl, just some insight.

I would suggest asking her the questions, instead of assuming and potentially setting yourself up for heartbreak. You don't want be just a moment, but if she's not "committed" in a relationship to you, she could be just using you, until someone better comes along (please take no offense, many confused women unintentionally do it).

Ask her if she's ready for something serious with you or are you just "there" for her. There, meaning just a body rather than a person with feelings and desires. If she's confused by the question, I would suggest halting the groping and start talking to her so she could try to figure out independence.