The "SEE ME" friends...

I've been working on this huge flaw for a couple of months now. Yes - its the ultimate thing that will kill friendships. Part of it comes from lack of social activity. You start to feel that YOU are the only thing that might be interesting to talk about. Another reason can come from generally having nothing to talk about. In your case, atleast you wanted to talk about different things so perhaps this how he wants to be and has no interest in anything about you or your daily happenings. Many many friends have left me over this, I can tell you what you can do to remedy the situation. First off, you have to tell him up front about it. If he persists then when he starts talking about himself, you can fade out of conversation and go about your business. Having done this enough times he may began to get the picture and try to work on his self absorbedness. You have to make him aware of it because I know I wasn't until one of my friends blew up on me about it and she's long gone now.

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Though, it gets under my skin when people don't initiate conversation with me at least some of the time; I don't want to be the one doing all the work.

I was doing this with one friend through e-mail for about 3 years before I stopped. Now I hardly hear from her which is what I always knew would happen once I stopped pulling all of the weight. Infact the last couple of friendships ended because of this. With friends off the net, I've had to do all the calling and never getting return calls. These type of individuals can pass as ghosts - you don't hear from them or see them unless you seek them out.

Very irritating.

There's nowhere I can't reach.