Relationship Advice...

Well look... how long's it been with this guy? Because it sounds not entirely unlike my situation a few years back.

I'm not bashful: I'm a pretty good-lookin' guy. Girls were knocking down my door for years. Problem is, I've also got some really conservative values. I didn't do it until I found a girl I really loved, and she had had sex before. We were together for about 2.5 years, and were even engaged for about a year of that. She promised she'd never cheat on me, hurt me, etc. I was happy to finally give up my virginity to her.

Then she cheated on me with an old buddy of hers... and a month later jumped into bed with some 18-year-old kid (I'm 23, she's 22) she had just met a week previous. She broke up with me, and I found out all this after the fact.

And now, I'm really wishing I'd never given it up to her, because there's nothing quite like entrusting your virginity to someone and then finding out later that you were just a piece of meat to them.

I know that's not what you wanna hear, but here's the bottom line: do you reeeaaaalllly trust the guy? If your virginity's important to you, that's really the only question that matters. If he's pushing you or getting impatient with you, I'd question his motivations.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by ♪^___^♪

That, or you could also not make such a big deal of it, and thus not be completely crushed when/if your trust is broken.

The fact that this person created a thread on this topic suggest to me that they are someone who considers their virginity a big deal. Many people, such as yourself, don't. Nothing wrong with that view, but it is not shared by everyone. If this person could simply tell themselves "it's not a big deal," this thread probably wouldn't exist.

But to address the thread starter again...

If all you're worried about is it hurting the first time or your mom catching you or whatnot... superficial concerns, basically... then try to just take a deep breath and dive right in. However, if you're legitimately not sure you're ready for it, it's never good to feel pushed into it. If that's the case, a little more time can't hurt.

There's nowhere I can't reach.