Relationship Advice...

Virginity is not that big of a thing unless you make it one. If you intend to wait until marriage, then emotionally you're not ready to physically commit to this guy since you're not sure if he's the "one". But if you truly are fine with losing your virginity to him (and not subjected to pressure or hormones), even though you're not positive he is the "one", then you really don't mind the whole marriage thing so just stop antagonizing over it and let things happen.

Originally Posted by Temari

And for god's sake, get on birth control if you're not already. Don't take any chances.

Personally for me, talking about birth control is premature, especially if you don't know if you'll be having sex consistently beyond that first time. Keep around decent condoms (not the one sitting in his wallet since his last girlfriend and probably not the free ones at your school's health clinic) and you should be fine.

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Originally Posted by Furby

As for Birth control... even if you don't know if you are gonna be doing it often or not, it's more efficient then condoms and also less of a struggle. Condoms can break and also if there are no condoms available at the exact moment that you and your b/f are getting in the mood for it, it saves time and it doesn't kill the mood.

Birth control is not more efficient than condoms and are more of a struggle. First she's got to find a gyno, get something prescribed, wait until her period comes to start and then wait a couple more days for insurance. Then she's got to remember to take it at the same time everyday until she does the deed to make it all worthwhile. And anyway, doing it without a condom is risky since he's not a virgin, however small the chances he's packing some STD down under. Even if you do decide on birth control, use a condom everytime anyways until he gets tested.

Condoms do fail so don't get shit condoms and they will be less likely to break. Don't put the condoms in your giant pins drawer and keep them around any place you may engage in sex (I'm sure the list of places is short).

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