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Originally Posted by Matt
I dated another girl where I didn't constantly think about, and things went smoothly until she pissed me off. But at least that lasted a few months instead of a few dates. The thing with her is that I didn't "put the pussy on a pedestal" and I was A-OK when I was with her.
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This is what took me at least a couple of years to realize, and decide to change. After I realized it, the pattern was pretty easy to recognize, especially since hindsight is 20/20. Looking back at my first relationship, I realized she wanted to be around me so much and was practically obsessing over me because I was doing the opposite. My second relationship, the roles switched, and within a few months I was acting like an obsessed human-shaped wad of cling-wrap and she was threatening to break up with me until I wisened up. We still date off and on, have been for the past two years. My third relationship didn't even start until after I stopped acting clingy and ended when she started acting clingy, et cetera. Everything else from there has shown that the more I take an easygoing attitude about it, go with the flow, and live my life normally, the more girls want to be around me.
The thing guys do too often in relationships is become clingy, or depressed and sullen and sometimes even angry when a girl doesn't like them or something. They dwell on it and dwell on it until it becomes like a poison. I used to do this all the time. Still do, occasionally, but I'm learning.
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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