What is cheating?

If he is exchanging naked pictures with someone, and you didn't agree to this in advance, that would fall under my definition of cheating. It is a level of intimacy that I would have thought was reseved for your partner. It's not like porn, because he knows the person involved. They are more than just a face and a body to him, more than just a visual stimulus. He knows their personality.

I would also regard any kind of serious amount of dirty talk as cheating. I know that a lot of people would say that dirty talk and such isn't cheating, but I wouldn't expect anyone who I was dating to do that kind of thing behind my back, or even with my knowledge. I'm involved in a relationship with the full expectation that my girlfriend's sexual intimacy of any kind is reserved only for me.

He might not have had sex with this person, but he has been intimate with her. He obviously has a lasting desire to have sex with her, and that alone would make me question the relationship. If the person I'm with desired someone else that much, what reason would there be for her to be with me?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by surasshu

I would have to disagree with this, at least for me, it wasn't that way at all. I was kinda just having fun, and had no serious intentions of meeting (let alone fucking) the girl.

You had no intentions of actually going through with it, but can you say that the desire did not exist in you mind? Desire is distinct from intention, and I mentioned desire specifically. I have the desire to do many things, and the intention to do only a very few of those things. The desire alone would be more than enough to give me second thoughts about the relationship.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by surasshu

Absolutely. If I had been in a serious relationship at the time, I wouldn't have done anything like that (or broken up).

Yeah, and although Bernard Black obviously doesn't want to end this relationship, perhaps she should consider it. Something has obviously gone very wrong. It's possibly not too late to fix it, but only if both parties have a strong desire to set things right.

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Anyway, I also don't see how this is possibly your fault, Bernard Black.

Thirded. I can't see any way it could be. I can see a few reasons she might feel that way, but people blame themselves for things that aren't really their fault all the time.

How ya doing, buddy?