The lovely breakup volume II

I know this is going to sound a little bit unpleasant, but I have always found that the best way is to concentrate on the things you never liked about her. Nobody is perfect, we just learn to ignore the flaws and unpleasant characteristics of a person that we are in love with. These characteristics are usually outweighed by their positive characteristics, of course. If you concentrate just on the things you don't like about a person, it won't be too long before you're thinking that you dodged a bullet by breaking up with them.

Of course, that isn't entirely an honest way of thinking, any more than the belief that the person you just broke up with was the ultimate paragon of virtue... but it can help you cope.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I don't try to focus on the bad parts of the person, since I want to remember the times we had fondly, and not in an angry light.

Just because a relationship doesn't work out doesn't mean you should write it off.

I really can see what you're saying here, but the reason I suggested what I did is because it sounds like this guy is still really stuck on his ex, and he needs to get unstuck, real soon. What I suggested is not a good way to do it, it's an ugly and bitter way to get over someone, but it can be very cathartic. It also doesn't necessarily stop you from being friends with that person, because the sort of things you might regard as being unpleasant in a lover are often irrelevant in a friend.

There's nowhere I can't reach.