How should I tell this bitch of a woman off?

I have been friends with this girl for about three and a half years now. I must have been blind, and she must have been insecure, but apparently she was IN LOVE with me since we met. She was always a little possesive, but seeing as how I never really cared (I never gave into her shit, that is), it never got too bad. I guess I was just an idiot for not recognizing it (we were REALLY good friends). Anyway.

About two years ago, last year of high school, this girl starts acting interested in the teacher's assistant, who is a good eight years older than us. They both worked at the local fast food joint (yep, I know) and he, being the creepy fuck he is, took an interest in her too. She was still SEVENTEEN, mind, and he was around twenty-five, about to begin a teaching career.

Well, this guy CLEARLY hates me. But he's such a passive-agressive bitch about it, I never realize THAT either (I'm pretty dense). He hates me because he knows that this girl is in love with me, and he wants me. He begins spreading vicious rumors at the local fast food joint (that all of my friends go to) about me. This is, on the weekdays, the TEACHER'S ASSISTANT at SCHOOL. I call him by his LAST NAME because he is a TEACHER. OK, got it so far?

Well, I cut her out of my life a little over a year ago, telling her she was crazy (as she was slowly beginning to side with that douche before me). But, as time passes, we somehow begin to contact each other, but ever since we haven't really been friends, just friendly. She has, recently, begun dating this guy and, quite strongly; they are talking about marriage (she just turned twenty, and he will turn twenty-eight and teaches high school kids officially now. Yes, yes). Of course, although I live OUTSIDE of their area, although I even AVOID everyone I used to know, she let's me know that this guy STILL talks about me.

What the fuck.

Anyway, she and I recently talked on the phone, but I left a message on some public forum saying we should talk. Suddenly, she has deleted me from everything without a word. This is a friendship of some time, and we last talked on good terms. So, I sent her two messages, and I have got no response.

I know it's her creepy-fucking boyfriend who STILL hates me so much that he STILL brings me up in their stupid conversations. DID I MENTION HE USED TO BE THE TEACHER'S ASSISTANT AT MY HIGH SCHOOL.

Now, here's what it boils down to: should I completely forget about this bitch and her new man, or, should I make it my mission to bring to light what's happened?

I'm basically saying, should I forgive and forget, or should I go for revenge.

I know that no one knows about the weird shit that has been going on with her boyfriend and his creepiness. Some of my friends who are in the know say that if THEY were in my position, they would report this guy for screwing around with people who are around the age of the kids he teaches. I don't necessarily care about him, though: I just want to write a letter to this girl telling her EXACTLY WHY she has no friends (and, if she has cut me off because of him, she now officially doesn't). But, I'm pretty sure this is a bad idea.

So, what should I do. Give up on her, or would it be alright to be just a LITTLE vindictive.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Oh, sure, there were 'feelings' at the beginning, but by this point, it's more of a friendship issue than anything; it was a really good friendship, after all. I'm not really intially angry at the guy. I'm angry at him now for hating me so much, which I see as really immature.

It's not pure revenge. I'm just wondering if I should even attempt to salvage a friendship that looks pretty much done.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I WOULD like to point out that maybe I'm allowed to be just a little immature, at nineteen? Christ, guys, give me a break.

I would also like to point out to the lot of you that are COMPLETELY MISSING THE PICTURE: This is not some girl that I fell in love with at the school dance. This is a person who helped shape the way I am; this is one of those people who you actually fight to keep. She was a good friend, a really good friend. People like Shin and SMX see this like I'm wasting my time on a girl and I'm really jealous.

No, I'm just angry at my friend for being a douchebag.

Perhaps I'm immature and inexperienced. Perhaps I'm immature and inexperienced because I mentioned the boyfriend part AT ALL; it was only so that it wouldn't seem so mysterious that she cut me off out of nowhere last week while the reason probably has something to do with her creepy boyfriend.

Maybe it doesn't change anyone's advice, but guys, stop treating me like I'm some idiot for still giving a damn about close friends.

EDIT:

Originally Posted by LeHah

Heres an option: Drive her the fuck away. Stop this passive aggressive bullshit you're playing at. Punch her boyfriend in the face - use a roll of pennies when you do it. Just go upside his head like he's a gold-toothed hooker working your corner and she's holding out on a roll.

You're a dick, LeHah, but thanks for the advice. I'm intrigued. How would a roll of pennies hurt? Can you suggest something a bit more firm?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Yeah, that's understandable, I guess. I think all of the boyfriend stuff in order to stress how mentally unstable the girl (my friend(?)) is, in going out with such a creepy guy. So, maybe I AM a douche after all.

Guess I'll just say to hell with this bitch. Which is really sad, but, whatyagonnado.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

I suppose I should update with this situation, as if anyone cares:

She e-mailed me, finally, and said, " I really don't need this right now, and honestly, it's not like we were BFF4EVA. I don't have time to write out everything, don't worry about it. Move on. Bye." That was it, word for word. So, clearly, I'm taking her on her advice; we are no longer friends. However, I did e-mail her, telling her what she's doing is pretty stupid, and that she does indeed OWE me an explaination of WHY she is kicking me out of her life out of nowhere.

I'm more stunned than hurt; after all, this is arguably the strangest thing that ever happened to me. I knew that friends were going to come and go, but I never expected such a damn GOOD friend to suddenly leave, and have the audacity not to say anything.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Thank you for your enlightening comment.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I already did 1, almost to the T, Slash. I sent her a letter saying she lost a good friend, that she was an idiot (though I was PRETTY nice about it) and then blocked her. I mean, there's no way I'll be seeing her anymore.

What an idiot.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by eriol

And don't forget, you have friends here too.

Like Shin and Manis, right?

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?