So I fall for my friend..

I know this is a very old situation, but it sucks so much I just have tell about it.

Basicly, in the last few years all my best friends have moved out of town and even though I keep in contact with them and see them a few times a year, my only really good friend who I hang out with is a girl. Unsurprisingly, I like her too much

I thought of her as a friend for a loong time, but recently I've been getting these what if-thoughts because we talk really deep things, hang out pretty much, have such a great time together and people constantly think we're dating.. even though we're not. She's said though that she'd never date me although we haven't never really had a discussion about it. She just considers me a really good friend and NOTHING more.

But because we're such good friends, she's recently started seeing some guy and unfortunately I'm getting too much information about how great he is and how much she likes her. I can't begin to explain how uncomfortable and depressing hearing it all is.

I'm now worried if I mention how much I like her and how I don't want to hear about the guy, I'll just ruin our friendship (which is the last thing I'd need as I don't really have any other friends as close). Do I just suffer through it and try to find someone else to date or what the heck do I do?

Either way, it's getting pretty depressing..

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Thanks for the advice..

Originally Posted by a lurker

Yeah, this isn't gonna happen.

Yeah, this is really what it comes down to, I guess. Because I know there's no chance that she would consider me as anything more than a friend, there's really no reason to tell how I feel. But on the other hand, I feel like a lousy friend because I can't truly be happy for her.

I just don't get how the girl doesn't figure it out. She honestly thinks I'm not interested in her. Is she just naive and do all guys always want something more from a friendship if the girl meets their girlfriend criteria so to speak? :P

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by christinajon

She probably has realized that you like her, but she doesn't want to bring it up because she doesn't like you back. I mean, can you imagine that conversation? "Hey, so, do you like me?" "Oh, uh, yeah." "Oh, well, I don't like you. Sorry." ""

Honestly, if you guys are really good friends, she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings by bringing it up.

That would make sense, but then again if she knew I liked her, she probably wouldn't talk about her boyfriend like she does now. She will probably figure out soon enough, as she's asked a few times why I haven't shown much interest in her new relationship.. I mean, it doesn't take a genius.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Shin

I would ditch her as a friend, wait a month or so then look her up, get drunk together and pull her. Friends come and go and you'll inevitably drift apart now that she's got a new guy. She'll either spend more time with him which will upset you more or he'll think you're creepy for hanging round her all the time so you might as well expedite the process, jog her on and then re-approach the whole situation a bit down the line.

Seriously, never let some bullshit best-friends-forever-but-just-that crap get in the way of a shag, that's strictly for losers and emos.

This is real manly playa advice right here

How ya doing, buddy?

Now I have to go to this party with my friend and she's invited her boyfriend too, so I now get to meet him.

I hope he's at least a nice guy..

I was speaking idiomatically.