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I never though...
that I would lose a friend over a difference in political views. She believes that illegals have a right to be here, I told her they were criminals, she called me a racist, I told her I wasn't even busted out my webster's dictionary unabridged edition and proved that my actions were not racist... now she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. Fucked up no?
So has anyone else ever lost a friend over something so utterly stupid that it boggles your mind? Please explain. Jam it back in, in the dark. ![]() "In a somewhat related statement. Hugging fat people is soft and comfy. <3" - Jan "Jesus, Gumby. You just...came up with that off the top of your head?" - Alice |
I somehow lost a friend because of someone I'm dating now. I'm sure you know who it is...his name rhymes with styles lol.
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You can perform an action that is against the law but not be a criminal, per se. Dictionary definitions usually ignore a lot of connotations surrounding a word or phrase, because these things are fluid. I mean, most people understand that. They know that just because two words - criminal and illegal - have the same definition, they do not mean the same things.
But you don't know this, because you are defective. She's probably defective too though, if she was your friend. So take heart! This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it. |
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She can't *really* not want to be your friend anymore... she's just probably pissed off that you think like that... that doesn't justify ending a friendship.
I have a friend with whom I can't talk anything religious related because we argue about even the smallest matters... we just keep our opinions to ourselves, and we're close friends. You could try that instead of trying to convince her you are right and don't argue were the topic to be brought up again. ![]() I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body? |
Like Umma said, she probably doesn't REALLY want to break off the friendship, but she is just pissed off.
I personally feel that she is beign overly passionate and irrational over a political issue. I have known people like this, and I generally have a very hard time putting up with them, so I don't even bother with them any more. How ya doing, buddy? ![]() |
It's probably nothing serious and things should probably settle... unless one of you happens to hold a grudge. I don't think you've lost a friend just yet... it just might pay to stay away from potentially volatile situations and topics in the future.
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Ok apparently people didn't read my last line in first post... This is not about my friend and I, I was asking about anyone else having a similar situation. I don't want anyones advice in this matter, I wanted to hear about the experiences of others. As for illegals I was refering to illegal immigrants, not illegal acts :/
Pez: I'm not really so sure of that. She made it pretty plan she didn't want to be my friend, I'm not really heartbroken over it though. I figure she will eventually come around to realize that throwing friends away over stupid shit won't get her far in life. Umma: I couldn't really see the justification for that decision either but what ever. Slash: I know who you are talking about but I don't really care about that drama so I have no idea what you are talking about. FELIPE NO ![]() "In a somewhat related statement. Hugging fat people is soft and comfy. <3" - Jan "Jesus, Gumby. You just...came up with that off the top of your head?" - Alice |
Chocobo |
Well, as I said, I can't talk about religion with a friend of mine who's a real fanatic or we end up fighting... but I no longer push too much on those matters because I know she'll just keep talking crap and we won't agree on anything. I guess on these situations someone has to be the better person...
In general, if it was someone you don't know, it shouldn't matter they don't like you for a stupid reason as disagreeing on some topic, but you can't let a little problem like that come between friends. What, you don't want my bikini-clad body? |
How open-minded of you.
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heh.. had something similar happen not to me but one of my friends. A couple months back my friend WIll and I started debating on whether Penut Butter is a condiment or a food. Well my other friend Christi chimmed in and said it was a food. Will told her it wasn't that it was a condiment, she said "What about Penut Butter and Jelly Sandwiches" he said "Those aren't real sandwhiches." so they continued to argue for.. probably 30 minutes until the point to where Christi just said "FUck you, fuck this.. you're fucking retarded and she didn't talk to him for 2months.. "
There's nowhere I can't reach. |
Ghost |
A Chinese friend of mine wanted me to sign a petition against the Japanese people during the whole "textbooks that gloss over WW2 atrocities" thing. I said I didn't believe in economically punishing all of Japan (including the children, physically hurt tourists, etc.) because of some cowardly textbook writers. She was pissed at me for about two, three days about that. Eventually I explained myself better, she concluded I "didn't understand the situation" and mellowed, but was still sore for a month or two. Much later, it was water under the bridge and we were all able to have a good laugh about it.
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What usually causes these problems is not one's views, but how one expresses them. You happen to have a very brash and exagerated way of putting across your points. If you present yourself the same way in person, to a friend, as you do in PP then it's understandable that they may not want to be around someone like that. A friendly discussion usually has a very different tone than a political discussion among relative strangers.
There is a reason many don't discuss politics and religion among most of their friends and family. I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?
"The avalanche has already started. It is too late for the pebbles to vote."
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With friends I just remember the saying where its if you want to keep your friends never bring up politics. If I want to have a political debate I just post at the PP. But never with friends, at least not seriously.
However every now and then me and a friend will get into a fight over trivial matters like whether or not the word "couple" was limited only to two of something or "couple" as in a small number but still greater than two. He brought up the point that "a couple" is two people. I say that in the connotation a couple means two, but that if I said "I have a couple of dollars in my pocket" most people would not assume that I just have two dollars, not the mention webster, Oxford, and Word-net agrees with me. However there have been a few times where we've gotten into serious fights over each other's habits, to him my normal behavior is lethargic, at the same time is behavior is way to active, often spending time doing pointless and wasteful things and sometimes hes too nosy. Some of the other times we accuse each other of commiting the offensive act first, usually its met with feverent denials of the charges. One time it got so damned serious he actually sent me an ultimatum where if I didn't apologize I'd lose him as a friend. First of all I never commited the atrocities he accuses me of (obviously he has a different view), and secondly at the time I was so pissed I couldn't really care less. In anycase we went silent for about two weeks before finally we kinda just decided to bury the issue and be friends again.
I was speaking idiomatically. |
My old ex online friend Celestial(her real name).. memories of her have been absorbed into my mind and taken as a regret that huants me to this day. Our brief friendship ended when she crossed the line with me. I told her why I could not return to school and man did she rip me a new one and called my lazy and ignorant. There's no way I can go to school and work 70 hours a week, I'd never be awake in class! Well my reaction was verbally vulgar..I dismissed the fact that she was only 15. And that's what made it a regret. Before the conversation got heated she wasn't very pleased with talking to me after I told her my situation. You can say it already ended right there. I had got one email from her 2 days later and never no more did I hear from her.
What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now? |
Chocobo |
Though I had girlfriend since I was 14 and when I found out she was a homosexual, I stopped seeing her as often and now I haven't spoken with her for about 2 years. Of course, that's different because it's not an insignificant issue. FELIPE NO |
FIRST, he says:
Yea, so. I usually have nothing in common with people who share a different political or cultural view other than my own. It usually takes a different kind of mindset to be one of the others. Its not so much their political views, but their entire personalities which aren't conducive to mine. I can deal with the moderates. They usually have pretty moderate personalities, it seems...somehow. But yea. I tend not to hang out with the Young Republicans. What, you don't want my bikini-clad body? |
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There's nowhere I can't reach.
"The avalanche has already started. It is too late for the pebbles to vote."
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Chocobo |
Although that affected me directly. Now, talking about whether peanut butter is a food or not, that's just opinion on a little subject. Most amazing jew boots |
I've lost many fond friends through the stupid nomadic behavior my dad's job undergoes. At least that's how it was in the past. My family moved around so much that this was all my life began to consist of:
-Move --Make new friends. --Know new places in town to hang out at. --Go to new school. -Move --Make new friends. --Repeat. Repeat, repeat all until we finally moved to New Jersey and FINALLY settled. I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body? |
You also mean to tell me that racism is blatant while homosexuality is sneaky? I was speaking idiomatically. |
When it comes to friends the best route is to keep religion and polotics out of the playing feild, unless you know for a fact that both you and your friend are responsible and understanding enough to know that friendship comes before such trivial things.
Some people can't handle other people's world views. That's just how it is, and if you want to keep a good friend, the best thing to do is to never push your ideals onto them, unless it's for their own good, as in life or death or some other extreme. And as far as being friends with closed minded people goes, I'm not for it. I can attempt to open their minds to knew ways of thinking and different views, but some people cannot be persuaded. The human mind is a crazy thing, sometimes you just get so caught up with the way you think the world ought to be that any other way of thought is crazy or disgusting. These kind of people are not the kind of people I need to associate myself with. What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now? ![]() |
Ghost |
FELIPE NO |
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"The avalanche has already started. It is too late for the pebbles to vote."
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I know about how Japan white-washes their WWII history. Even to the point where I saw a picture of a memorial in which they claim that Roosevelt was this atrocious ass. Even to the point where one of my Japanese friends believe that the US attacked Japan for no good reason. She never even learned that Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor was the reason. ![]() Jam it back in, in the dark. |