Hardwired in the Core

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Jam it back in, in the dark.

You'd be amazed at how much you learn about yourself doing that 'waste of time' thing.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Honestly, I'm rather leery about the whole ideal girl or ideal look thing -- that's what your "hardwired" image sounds like. By holding on to this hardwired image, you might turn away people who you might have formed a great relationship with, just because she may not have quite matched up to that image in your head.

I really think there's no such thing as the perfect person for anyone.. what's important is that two people in a relationship accept each other for who they are and try to improve from there, rather then holding each other to some kind of ideal.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

It's not subconscious if your consciously thinking about it.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Ginko

what's important is that two people in a relationship accept each other for who they are and try to improve from there, rather then holding each other to some kind of ideal.

Amen to that.

Gawd, if anime characters could physically materialise the whole world will live in peace. No divorces, no wife beatings, no nothing.

But usually (this based off what my friends have gone through), the "girl you never thought of going out with but is really nice to you" is a girl who'll have a stable relationship with you. If you don't have a friend who is a girl well...

Time to socialise, brother.

I was speaking idiomatically.

I don't think it's a good idea to look for the girl "image." I think that may be one of the highest standards ever, because you could keep searching and never find that girl (apart from plastic surgery, of course).

I used to think that I would never date blond-haired guys because most that I met were jerks. Lo and behold, I found myself dating one. I suppose you could say the one "exception" but I doubt that because there are probably many nice guys out there too.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

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FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by x86

SMX: For me, those called casual (throw-away relationships, one-night stands and so on) are a big no-no.
When you enter in a relationship, you should be interested in knowing someone else, not knowing yourself. If you want to know yourself, that's what introspection is for! .

I think, when you do get into a relationship, you're going to learn much more about yourself than you ever thought you would, that no amount of introspection by yourself will teach you.

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Ginko, Bobbet: Of the several crushes I've had, none of them looked like my ideal image, but I actually found 'em pretty. Maybe I just have been too radical when I told that "she should look like it" (although...why not? ).
Anyways...my standards are very high, though in a different way of those of other people. I've noticed that the vast majority of guys look for HOT girls (look mainly for ASS & TITS), while I look for extremely CUTE girls (mainly FACE).

Same deal. It's physical attraction either way. :P

Just wondering. Say, you got into an extremely happy and loving relationship with someone that doesn't quite fit your ideal, and someone who fits your ideal comes along. Will you quit your current relationship to try for this someone who is closer to your ideal?

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Life is about adaption, and learning to accept things you can't change. While it's okay to have standards, I think that it's silly to uphold some for things as silly as "the girl I'll marry will look exactly like this..." I mean, what's really important? How old are you? I'd like to think, that after some (more) experience, your thoughts will change.

As for myself, I have plenty of ideals, but it seems that the people I actually get caught up with don't quite fit them. I'd bet if you asked a person who's been happily married for ten or twenty years how their partner fit their image of a "perfect mate," you'll find that it's really not that simple.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

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How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by x86

SMX: For me, those called casual (throw-away relationships, one-night stands and so on) are a big no-no.
When you enter in a relationship, you should be interested in knowing someone else, not knowing yourself. If you want to know yourself, that's what introspection is for! .

I think you are totally misunderstanding what SMX meant with what he said.

Those 'flings' or 'casual realtionships' are very important in learning about yourself and other people. I've been in many relationships and about 4 of them have been very passionate and longterm; although most of them have been short lived and a good learning experience. Not everyone is all about dating casually, I understand that; but what happens when you do finally hook up with who you think is your dream girl and she doesn't think your her dream guy? Simply because you may not have picked up the know-how.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

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I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Haha, this guy is so funny.

How ya doing, buddy?