Sex: Take It Or Leave It

Originally Posted by Gechmir

I'm sorry. I couldn't resist >_>

Oh screw you, its too early for me to actually speak correct English. D:

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Gumby

An hour is a long time to go? Well I should defiantly not do weed before sex... I think my fiancé would kill me. I thought weed just made you lazy?!?

Welll whatever then. Like I know shit about good sex.

I just know that it's a desensitising factor, and it would certainly not make it better, as was being claimed.

How ya doing, buddy?

I take issue with the advice, as well. And I base my opinion about this on the fact that I used to be a huge pothead who only dated other potheads.

I was speaking idiomatically.

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Are you talking about me?

Actually, your reply came as I was typing mine. So no. And, yeah, what Shin said.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by soapy

Funny how I was just reading the chapter in my psych book about Sexual Disorders. Some people just have lower sex drives than others. Some honestly can't get through the day without having sex at least three or four times. Some people just don't need it ever. At what point is this a disorder or abnormal? It's when it bothers you and affects your relationships. If you manage to find someone on the same page as you when it comes to sex, and you can live a happy life with a healthy and meaningful relationships, then that's fine. If you're in a relationship where one person needs it more than the other and you fight about it, that's when you need help. As long as your behaviour doesn't affect or hurt anyone else, besides not being "within the norm" there is no real cause for concern.

It's hard to classify what's "normal" when it comes to sex because it involves a lot of factors such as society, culture and morals.

I think I have a so-so drive. But I find that it's usually dependent on the person you're with. If they're good then it's all fine but if they're bad then it's boring.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Was he an intellectual? I consider myself to be an intellectual person

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Yes, I've had sex (over 200 times

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You can accuse me I wasn't good in bed, or I have no confidence... but I ask you, what if I don't care if I was good in bed? What if I really don't care about what society thinks of me?

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why is sex necessary anymore?

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Simply put I think he transcended the idea of sex, and so have I.

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if you transcend sex you stop thinking for yourself, and can spend that time thinking about humanity.

Ahahaha, oh wow. A lot of points to work with here. Umm... I'll keep it short, okay? What does society's image of you matter when it is your girlfriend you're displeasing? I bolded the relevant part because there's just so much of your intellectualism.

intellectual = the new stupid

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

I wouldn't say it's a disability unless the drive has never or never will be there at all. There are some people who were sexually abused as children, and in that case it's a learned factor that sex=bad.

As for me, if she doesn't care for it much, I'll teach her to care for it much. Oh, yeah.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I don't think I could be in a relationship with a person who only wants to have sex if I want it. As if they are doing a chore of some sort. However, I am not really easy to turn on most times, and I can go a long, long time without sex.

I sometimes think I would rather spend my time doing something better, or more interesting, than having sex when I am not in the mood.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

^ Like wanking?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I might be one of those disabled fellows smoodle mentioned. Sex is far too tangled a mess of emotional and ethical concerns for me. It's easier to just put it aside. Fortunately, there are others like me, so I'm not lonely.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Was he an intellectual? I consider myself to be an intellectual person, and I also am uninterested in sex. Yes, I've had sex (over 200 times - 3 year girlfriend), but after we broke up, it sex just didn't seem logical.

Oh, son. I don't even know where to start here. First of all, sex has been a pursuit of the intellectual since the dawn of the intellectual. For every T.E. Lawrence (who I would argue simply expressed a secondary sexuality) there are a million Oscar Wildes and Miltons. Don't try and pawn this off as an intellectual pursuit, the intellectual is fascinated by the human condition. As a logician, maybe you have the basis of an argument, but please don't throw intellectual around because you read a book or two, and then act as if it has any bearing on the conversation at hand. If you want to argue an a priori stance about sexuality as necessity, please, be my guest, but I've seen nothing outside of you stating you're an intellectual that would even hint that you have a leg to stand on here. Seriously, mate. You're making yourself look bad.

I was speaking idiomatically.

God, I would have loved to seduce Oscar Wilde. I know he was gay, but that's all percentages anyway, and I'm sure I could have done it.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I agree with Shin. Those who aren't fascinated by sex simply haven't had an example of it that worked for them.

Personally, I think sex is the greatest multiplayer activity in the history of man. Before Xbox Live there was T'n'A. A partner that doesn't agree that it's an awesome way to spend 30-45 minutes is simply not a good partner for me.

FELIPE NO

First off, great SF icon Burning Ranger, took me a minute to remember where the hell I saw that from before :-D

Sex is definitely important. Though at this point I'm probably willing to hold off until marriage to have sex again, especially if the significant other wants it that way. I'm not too comfortable having a sexual relationship with someone I'm not interested in mentally. At some point in a serious relationship sex needs to be there, though. Porn can only do so much.

ps most scatterbrained entry evar

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

If you were given the choice between hot sex (because your partner is so horny right then) and an important appointment where the well-being of some other people is at stake, what would you do?
The people who claimed that you don't care about sex, simply because you never had a real good one might be right in some cases, but I wouldn't rule out the possibilities of exceptional people.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I don't think wierd hypothetical situations figure in to the original topic. "Hot sex or the lives of millions!" is a silly question anyway. If self-discipline for the sake of the well-being of others doesn't make your partner hot for you, you're probably seeing the wrong person.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Ok, the choice wasn’t meant to kindle extreme situations. You’re not responsible for millions of live if you opt for hot sex. Nor did I implied it. Let me reorder my approach.

… For every banana you digest you get one day extra off your life. Likewise you are given the choice to sacrifice the banana for unbelievably hot sex. What would you do???

Believe it or not, there are actually people who’d eat the banana to enjoy their extra day, relaxing in the sun studio and doing stuff like reading a novel. Seeing all the disbelief of enjoying normal things over hot sex, I just have to point this out. I don’t think it’s unrealistic.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I hate bananas. I'd definitely pick the hot sex.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by StarCrossedSoul

However, it'll probably be easier to be man since they don't suffer the most part of the consequences.

Sorry for being late on the uptake.. I don't post often so I'll try and keep this coherent!

I'm not trying to start shit or anything, but I do not agree with this. Someone else mentioned in the thread previously that his reasons for avoiding sex was worry about getting a girl pregnant. I've been with my girl for about 5 years, and we have a pretty healthy sex life for the most part. However, sometimes the mental stress of worrying that I could get her pregnant and wreck both of our lives so early on really turns me off to sex. I have 1 year of college left to finish, and once I'm finished with it, I intend on marrying this girl. However, at the moment her getting pregnant would be VERY bad for the both of us. If somehow she did get pregnant I would have to drop school and provide for the kid. With something like that going through my mind, sometimes, I just don't feel like sex. There are consequences on both sides of the fence. However, I love her and no matter what happens, I will be with her in the future.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Couldn't you just wear a condom? That 1% margin of error is usually due to user error.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I can see the frustration inherent in being with someone who doesn't want sex but then at times I've been that person as well. Sometimes I go for in excess of a month without wanting it sometimes it's every day. I Honestly feel that if sex is all that's holding your relationship together you have a lot bigger issues between the two of you than one persons lack of libido.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Monkey King

Couldn't you just wear a condom? That 1% margin of error is usually due to user error.

Usually do. Just the paranoia of something going wrong such as breaking or my stupid ass doing something wrong always getting to me. I'm a firm believer in Murphy's Law.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

I want hot sex when I get older. =P (Currently 17)

No, I haven't had sex yet nor will I until I'm "successful". (Good career, educationally set e.t.c) I think I'll wait on the "slam dunk" everyone keeps referring me to. I know condoms can reduce chances of pregnancy but there is still that small chance that I can get a girl pregnant.

I'll study in the meantime. I hope to get some ass when I'm thirty though. =P

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Himetsu

I want hot sex when I get older. =P (Currently 17)

No, I haven't had sex yet nor will I until I'm "successful". (Good career, educationally set e.t.c) I think I'll wait on the "slam dunk" everyone keeps referring me to. I know condoms can reduce chances of pregnancy but there is still that small chance that I can get a girl pregnant.

I'll study in the meantime. I hope to get some ass when I'm thirty though. =P

I have a feeling it will happen before you know it. I give you 3 years. Ironically I lost mine around 17 after my ex and I were going out for 5 months.

As for me, I do love sex, I am a lustful and passionate fuckbunny. I mean its bad enough because i simply can't get enough, I want more and more, which usually bothers my significant other because of the duration. But as for the initial wait, I believe its necessary. I personally ask always if we could wait a few months, around 4-6 on average or until she snaps and just wants me to completely satisfy her every want, will, and need. And even then, I love to get off, but what gets me off more is just completely satisfying her to the point of exhaustion, or to where she no longer can hold herself up and her body just begins to shut off...

well I dunno if that constitutes me as "wierd"

Sorry if its a bit too much information...

There's nowhere I can't reach.

To me sex is something that should be saved for the right person, mainly because sex is a powerful emotional and physical form of love. When you have intercourse with someone it should be the right person, even if this is hard to know exactly but sex isn't something to me that should be just used as a form of pleasure, there can be substitute to that [and no i don't mean anything else sexually related]. I am not saying that it is wrong to freely have sex but think of the other person as well, make sure they take it as freely as you do, sex is a dangerous but necessary form of Love and can have very bad opposite effects if used improperly.

How ya doing, buddy?