How to Flirt?

Everytime I meet a girl, and we become very "fond" of eachother but I end up just being a nice guy. I never flirt - I just fool/joke around (like an asshole, perhaps). I just met this new girl and we've been hanging around a lot this week and I think I might like her. Of course, there are different approaches to being flirtatious but what would you do? How can I become more than just a friend?

And no, I'm not some sex maniac, if you're wondering. =)

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Well, being the nice guy is no way to do it. You need to learn to exude a little sexuality, mate. Go take some latin dancing, learn to talk a half-step closer to her, let your hand trail on her back for just a moment longer than is normal when you walk past her. There's a myriad of little things. My personal favourite is taking the opportunity to get close. Teaching her how to play poker, chess, something, lean over her shoulder and get your lips near her ear as you're looking at her cards/pieces. When you talk, the breath hits her ear. Fuck, just make yourself obvious. Women don't want a pussy. Except a_lurker and Jessy, obviously.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

It's not like being romantic is like waving a magic wand and all you have to do is find the wand. It just happens. Either you know how to do it or you don't.

What am I doing, posting in this thread. I don't understand people who aren't able to make people fall in love with them at will. >_o

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Since she probably already has a boyfriend, challenge him to mortal kombat. The winner takes the girl!

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Remember guy, it's all about confidence. You're the best looking and most charming guy in the world {we all that is inaccurate, because in actuality I am the best looking, more charming guy in the world, but she's never met me and so she doesn't know this}. Keep this in mind if you feel your confidence level slipping.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by russ

Remember guy, it's all about confidence. You're the best looking and most charming guy in the world {we all that is inaccurate, because in actuality I am the best looking, more charming guy in the world, but she's never met me and so she doesn't know this}. Keep this in mind if you feel your confidence level slipping.

Russ means SECOND most attractive man. He has sideburns, whereas I clearly have a beard. PWNAGE.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Try to use the words she says in a clever way, you don't have to make a direct approach keeping a low profile is good as long as you can always end a sentence with a clever, well, pun.

FELIPE NO

Touch her, frequently.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by Denicalis

Russ means SECOND most attractive man. He has sideburns, whereas I clearly have a beard. PWNAGE.

Yeah ok Gimli, if you say so.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Make her get you a beer from the fridge and then ask her for a root.
Works everytime. B)

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Some of this worries me, but some of it is very good. I think it depends on what she likes. If she likes humor, then the joking around could be good enough if accompanied by something such as, "By the way, there's this movie coming out that's suppose to be funny, do you want to go see it this Saturday?" That way, it's sort of no pressure and it leaves you open for an escape such as, "I just meant going there as friends" if she is worried about getting into a relationship.

Women are very unique and complicated, which is why the comment about touching her a lot is sort of iffy. To some women, it's a turn on. To others, they may be tempted to pull out the pepper spray and scream "Fire!" Brushing against her or hand/shoulder touches could be fine b/c you can play that off as flirty or as an accident.

I could go into more details if I knew more about what kind of person she is.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Visavi

Some of this worries me, but some of it is very good. I think it depends on what she likes. If she likes humor, then the joking around could be good enough if accompanied by something such as, "By the way, there's this movie coming out that's suppose to be funny, do you want to go see it this Saturday?" That way, it's sort of no pressure and it leaves you open for an escape such as, "I just meant going there as friends" if she is worried about getting into a relationship.

The problem with this is that 90% of the time it sticks you in the friend zone. If a woman is hesitant about getting involved with someone, it's usually because:

1. They like them, but only platonically.
2. Some major shit went down that scared her from relationship for the time being.

Either way, as a guy, you're going to get stuck as a friend, and there's usually little you can do to change her perception about that. You can stick around, somewhat, in case she actually does change her perception. But actively going after her is dumb because you'll only waste you time, money, patience, and probably just reinforce her platonic perception of you.

Touching doesn’t have to be groping, either. It means doing whatever is physically necessary to make her mind associate you with physical/sexual aggression. If she rejects this idea, the guy was doomed from the start. If she accepts it, it’ll help out, as long as you’re good at judging an appropriate limit.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Sepharite

I never flirt - I just fool/joke around (like an asshole, perhaps).

Isn't that what flirting is? Unless you're being too much of an asshole/too childish about it.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Aardark

Isn't that what flirting is? Unless you're being too much of an asshole/too childish about it.

In my opinion it would be, unless the girl is stereotypically gothic and depressive, then she might find it to be more annoying.

Edit: I found this link that might help you a little (however, I wouldn't recommend #5): http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...uid=6&GT1=7964

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Being self-confident to the point of arrogance is the way to go. It gets people's attention and makes you more memorable to all the coy, nice-guys out there.

Also, learn to dance properly and smile all the time. Girls much prefer friendly approachable looking arrogant bastards to sultry and mean looking wusses.

Also, don't ever grow facial hair, it makes you look like a gay or a tramp or possibly both in Denicalis' case.

How ya doing, buddy?

Make almost blalant comments or hints that you want some. And then laugh it as a joke (but not as much as to say maybe I'm not joking).

In a nutshell, be a smooth criminal.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by Shin

Being self-confident to the point of arrogance is the way to go. It gets people's attention and makes you more memorable to all the coy, nice-guys out there.

Also, learn to dance properly and smile all the time. Girls much prefer friendly approachable looking arrogant bastards to sultry and mean looking wusses.

Also, don't ever grow facial hair, it makes you look like a gay or a tramp or possibly both in Denicalis' case.

Can we just make out and end all this sexual tension already?

Jam it back in, in the dark.