eHarmony.

... Are you trolling me, Lehah? Don't troll a moderator. It's just a stupid thing to do.

Nobody said anything about sitting at home looking at porn. We are talking about metting people on the internet as opposed to meeting people in real life. Now, if you care to join us in the actual conversation that was going on before you came, feel free to do so, but please don't continue trolling.

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Originally Posted by Minion

Are you trolling me, Lehah? Don't troll a moderator. It's just a stupid thing to do.

Had I been trolling. Would I be trolling. You'd have banned me from the get go. Let it be said that when I troll, there would be no hesitation in action.

Originally Posted by Minion

Nobody said anything about sitting at home looking at porn. We are talking about metting people on the internet as opposed to meeting people in real life. Now, if you care to join us in the actual conversation that was going on before you came, feel free to do so, but please don't continue trolling.

You also are failing to see the point I'm trying to make. You, Minion, are coming across as being thick-headed and full of excuses. Pardon my tactless retorts but come the fuck on already. Look at it from my point of view - you sound like the roommate who refuses to roll out of bed at 3 in the afternoon. "This is too tough" or "I can't do it, its too complicated" wouldn't get you a job - so why would it get you a girlfriend?

I was speaking idiomatically.

I'm very happily in a relationship of over 6 months thanks to eharmony, so I don't know what the hell you're on about.

And by the way, this victim mentality thing? It's old. I don't warn you because I like having you around, but the exceptions of who gets moderated by me when necessary are few and far between.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I have no dirty laundry to air with you, Minion - so theres no need for me to scream and wail and curse your mother out on PM. I've said my peice on this subject and possibly on your seeming lack of spine.

I'll not comment further on this thread - provided no one bothers telling me about it further.

FELIPE NO

I decided to Close the match with Sugar because I'm looking for someone who isn't hundreds of miles away from me.

How ya doing, buddy?

Narrow your results. You can taylor your matches for just about any preference you have.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Well I had put it at within 60 miles to begin with, but after about a month of no responses I put it up to the country, which turned into a wasted match. I had also changed the religion settings to include Judaism and Islam, but rolled back to Christianity for the aforementioned reason of possible family conflict. Not that love doesn't conquer all, but I've already had a hard enough time finding a possible match on both eHarmony and in real life and the smoother and simpler things go when I do find one, the nicer.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

You know, now that I think of it, it's really not all that great for people who don't live next to cities. You might be SOL, unfortunately.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I disagree, personally I believe it would be MUCH easier if relations are held in the vicinity for personaly interaction is important rather than bland internet (aim/email) conversation.

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Posted by Minion
I'm very happily in a relationship of over 6 months thanks to eharmony, so I don't know what the hell you're on about.

You are transparent as glass. You're touting eHarmony as a superior method of acquiring a mate, because it worked for you. Consider how egocentric this is. The thing that worked for you must be the best, because everybody is just like you, has the same experiences as you, and the same opportunities as are available to you. I have to conclude that this is your mindset, because these are the only circumstances under which your sweeping generalization could work.

Just because you went out to bars and clubs night after night, being rejected by the fairer sex and having no luck at all, hardly means that it is an "inefficient" means of finding a partner. It simply means that it didn't work for you. It is one thing to argue that for some people, eHarmony works just well. But unless you're going to follow up by insisting that all people should be just like you in thought and deed, you're overreaching by suggesting that eHarmony is superior.

Throwing your weight around as a moderator doesn't win you any points, either.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Yeah, except that I mentioned that if you don't live near a city, it probably wouldn't work for you. So, there's an example of you not knowing what the hell you're talking about. Want to try reading the thread before you post?

Why the hell would I care what works for you people anyway? I don't get a commission and I could give less than a rat shit about most of your love lives. I'm confident in my opinion. If that bothers you, you know where to stick it.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

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I'm fucking bitter because I'm the most obscenely staunch optimist you'd ever meet when it comes to people - but I'm proven wrong day after day after day.

If you continue to be proven wrong, then you're not optimistic. You accept your inherently negative perception of events rather then embracing a positive outlook. Kudos for trying to decieve yourself into thinking you're a more-than-reasonable person, though.

I agree with Minion that eHarmony can work for people, and not necessarily desperate people. People who get drunk at bars to meet other drunk people in hopes of making a drunk connection are just as desperate IMO. Being part of a community that uses mood altering depressant drugs to meet people is less desperate than using an online community based on personality traits? Mmmkay. As for Borders, it's an OK place to meet people, but people put too much faith in the ability to read. "OMG she reads books that have DRAGONS in them, she must be my soul mate!!!!"

Claiming eHarmony isn't a good way to meet people is rediculous in itself. It uses personality tests, etc etc. If you think your chances of finding someone compatible are just as good as if you'd go to a bar or book store, you're deluded. That's your "got to keep it REAL cuz i'm a MAN" 6th sense, while the rest of your brain is struggling to find any logical arguments to support your reasoning. The sense of "risk" and "adventure" that comes from meeting someone new at a store or bar doesn't increase your chances of compatibility no matter how much you'd like to think it does. If you look at it from a statistical standpoint, you're much more likely to find someone you can really get along with through a filtering of personality tests.

FELIPE NO

It's all just Luddite syndrome, I think. People are subconsciously afraid that technology will replace the human experience.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Or it could just be that people have had positive experiences with other methods of meeting people so they don't see a reason to completely supplant how they've been doing it.

If I'm really into doing drugs, I think the best place to meet people that share my interests would be at party where people do drugs. If I like to read lots of books, I could go to a bookstore or a library to meet people that do the same. If I'm into jazz poetry, I could go to some hipster coffee shop and try to meet women there.

It's not like I'm going to hit up an anti-war rally to pick up girls that won't mind a guy in the military, I'm doing my own sort of "personality tests" by choosing venues that generally cater to people with interests similar to my own.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by LeHah

Had I been trolling. Would I be trolling. You'd have banned me from the get go. Let it be said that when I troll, there would be no hesitation in action.



You also are failing to see the point I'm trying to make. You, Minion, are coming across as being thick-headed and full of excuses. Pardon my tactless retorts but come the fuck on already. Look at it from my point of view - you sound like the roommate who refuses to roll out of bed at 3 in the afternoon. "This is too tough" or "I can't do it, its too complicated" wouldn't get you a job - so why would it get you a girlfriend?

It's no wonder why LeHah has such bad luck with girls.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Minion

Yeah, except that I mentioned that if you don't live near a city, it probably wouldn't work for you. So, there's an example of you not knowing what the hell you're talking about. Want to try reading the thread before you post?

Why the hell would I care what works for you people anyway? I don't get a commission and I could give less than a rat shit about most of your love lives. I'm confident in my opinion. If that bothers you, you know where to stick it.

whoops my bad hahah, I guess I should keep that in mind next time :doh:

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Originally Posted by Smoodle

It's no wonder why LeHah has such bad luck with girls.

At least he's had some kind of luck, though. That's more than some of you can say.

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Originally Posted by valiant

whoops my bad hahah, I guess I should keep that in mind next time :doh:

I wasn't talkin' to you there, dude. We coo'

I was speaking idiomatically.

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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

At least he's had some kind of luck, though. That's more than some of you can say.

Actually, that's irrelavant. I was pointing that out just to emphasize how much of an uptight asshole he is.

Hey! It seems you two have something in common!

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I stopped trying to meet girls online after my experience last year.

First girl - when we met in person, spent our entire first date trying to convince me how Goth she had been in high school and would not talk about anything else.

2nd girl - Had a gigantic crisis every week. Ended up getting mad at me because she thought I was giving her too much advice for suggesting that she might want to talk to someone professional to help her deal with all of it.

3rd girl I never even met in person, because after I sent her a picture she asked me if I had ever thought about completely shaving off my eyebrows. When I said "no, why?" she suddenly got evasive and blocked me.

Is there potential for dating sites out there? Sure, I believe people can get into relationships off them including that e-harmony site. But everyone has a reason for posting a personal ad online, and you may not want to know what that reason is.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by xanth

3rd girl I never even met in person, because after I sent her a picture she asked me if I had ever thought about completely shaving off my eyebrows. When I said "no, why?" she suddenly got evasive and blocked me.

I can't help but think that this was just someone fucking with your head.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by Tails' Plushie

I can't help but think that this was just someone fucking with your head.

Heh, it's possible. It was a very weird conversation and I wish I had saved it. She kept telling me that she was scoping me out "for a friend" but wouldn't tell me anything about herself or this friend.

It was pretty funny though realizing she had blocked me instead of logging off like she said she was.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

There are a lot of women on most dating sites that are there for God knows why. Probably something to do with vanity. But eharmony is much better in that most people who will pay 50 bucks a month are going to take it seriously. I've tried several others and I wouldn't bother with any of them. Too many hazards, including the hilarious Nigerian scam artists who try to get you to wire them money by impersonating a hot chick on a dating site. They're easy to spot because they're the only women who will actively contact you on most sites. That and if you manage to talk to them, you'll quickly realize that they are not some chick who grew up in Brooklyn and somehow got stranded at a Nigerian hotel.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

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It's all just Luddite syndrome, I think. People are subconsciously afraid that technology will replace the human experience.

That fear is certainly understandable, but eHarmony is not intended to replace communication, but rather start communication. It's merely a people matcher. Now, if you continue to talk to your match through IM and email for the next year or so, that's your own issue. I see no problem going to bars or bookstores to meet new people and make new friends, but to go into those situations expecting to meet someone you'll actually have a deep connection with and marry is purely wishful thinking. Sure it may have been successful for some people, but if only 20-25% of the people who go to bars and bookstores find the love of their life (and that's being generous), an alternative method for finding a significant other is completely welcome

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by xanth

3rd girl I never even met in person, because after I sent her a picture she asked me if I had ever thought about completely shaving off my eyebrows. When I said "no, why?" she suddenly got evasive and blocked me.

Are you sure she wanted you to shave them off completely? Because that's messed up. Could it be that you have a unibrow and she thought she might be attracted to you if only you did something about it?

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