Age Barriers in Romance

Originally Posted by Fireman Joe

Looks like you're trying to attack my character there and impose your own morals on me, Sass.

Of course I'm attacking your character. It's not a very good one.

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We share a lot of interests and enjoy each others' company.

Interests like hanging out at the mall, lip gloss, and Nickelodeon?

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Interests like hanging out at the mall, lip gloss, and Nickelodeon?

I'm sure they have long, interesting discussions about the most recent episodes of DeGrassi!

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

If my brother is any indication, it's The Secret Life of the American Teeanger, actually.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

What's funny is if we got someone in TQP complaining about how their parents are being too restrictive or something and they turn out to be 17 and still in high school, people wouldn't be calling them an adult.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I don't think this kid's an adult. Hell, even if he -was- fucking the 15 year old, I wouldn't have any moral qualms with it. Most 15 year olds I know have the ability to figure out sex. I just think it's funny to expect her pappy to be okay with it.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Of course I'm attacking your character. It's not a very good one.


Interests like hanging out at the mall, lip gloss, and Nickelodeon?

You're not a very good judge of character if you've come to such a conclusion after only a few forum posts.

and no. I hardly need to justify myself to people on the internet I don't know, but to put your cynical mind to rest, we like to play music together (she plays viola, I play cello), we both like sci-fi and anime, etc
Some of her other interests include archery, history and geology. Quite obviously a far cry from most 15 year old girls. I can always have an interesting conversation with her. The only doubts I'm having regarding her maturity are about her fear of her parents, other than that, things are just fine.

I entered into this thread with the intention of contributing to the discussion and possibly receiving some advice regarding dealing with her parents, not the intention of being attacked. It's served as a reminder to why I don't post often.
If you're all quite done, I'll be taking my leave from the thread.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Fireman Joe

I hardly need to justify myself to people on the internet I don't know, but to put your cynical mind to rest

Sass may say shes not a good judge of character - but here you are saying "I don't have to validate myself to you but I will anyway".

I was speaking idiomatically.

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Do you think that if either of you had been aware of the 10 year age difference before dating, would it have hindered things at all?

Probably not. It's hard to answer that question. Even knowing now, it really doesn't make things that awkward, because I don't notice the difference.

Actually, I think the only thing about the relationship that btohers me is that she's "religious." I don't know if that's even the word to use.

Wow, this reply is like 5 months late.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Fireman Joe

You're not a very good judge of character if you've come to such a conclusion after only a few forum posts.

and no. I hardly need to justify myself to people on the internet I don't know, but to put your cynical mind to rest, we like to play music together (she plays viola, I play cello), we both like sci-fi and anime, etc
Some of her other interests include archery, history and geology. Quite obviously a far cry from most 15 year old girls. I can always have an interesting conversation with her. The only doubts I'm having regarding her maturity are about her fear of her parents, other than that, things are just fine.

"I hardly need to justify myself to you! BUT LET ME DO IT ANYWAYS."

I don't particularly care about the interests you share. I am sure she is "very mature for her age" and you will be together for "a long time."

That is, of course, until her parents find out!

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I entered into this thread with the intention of contributing to the discussion and possibly receiving some advice regarding dealing with her parents, not the intention of being attacked. It's served as a reminder to why I don't post often.
If you're all quite done, I'll be taking my leave from the thread.

O you poor, poor thing. You wanted advice for your relationship with a fifteen year old and you didn't get it.

Here's the schtick: Her Pops isn't going to be cool with it. She's going to avoid telling him. And you're going to continue to pressure her to "stand up" to her father, despite her being essentially a child (in the eyes of the law and family).

You're all kinds of hilarious.

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

That is, of course, until her parents find out!

While you can't get in trouble unless you try to hook your nosepickers into her gorilla slit, the parents can certainly tell the police whats going on between you and an underaged girl and then put up some kind of legal restriction.

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Age is just a number. Although I would hardly settle with a man proportionally as old as my father (22 years or more in difference), I think older men are usually more mature.

My boyfriend is 19 years older than me. He quickly got over this issue; we love each other and that'S all that matters. However, my mom still feels uneasy that her son-in-law-to-be is 8 years younger that she is...

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Janus X

I think older men are usually more mature.

I see you lack a great deal of life experience, young padawan.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Janus X

Age is just a number. Although I would hardly settle with a man proportionally as old as my father (22 years or more in difference), I think older men are usually more mature.

My boyfriend is 19 years older than me. He quickly got over this issue; we love each other and that'S all that matters. However, my mom still feels uneasy that her son-in-law-to-be is 8 years younger that she is...

HOW old are you?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Janus X

we love each other and that's all that matters.

Too old to still believe this crap.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

I think it all comes down to who you're attracted to. If you have stuff in common great but if not then it probably won't work out or the opposite will happen and you'll end up with someone who can show you a fun time and have lots of adventures with. Now that I'm getting older though, I'm looking for more of a relationship. I wouldn't mind dating around or something kinda causual if I like the person but my family is always moving around alot and it'd be nice to find someone to come home to instead of more ppl you meet who you like and just end up leaving all the time ya know. It gets old.

If the guy's older I don't mind it but not too much older than me. Maybe 3 or 4 at the most.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

HOW old are you?

Yeah, no kidding. I'm curious as to how bad of a cradle-robbing kiddie fiddler your "boyfriend" really is.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

HOW old are you?

25. It was 2 years ago...

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I see you lack a great deal of life experience, young padawan

I never tried to hide it

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Too old to still believe this crap.

let me live the illusion while I stil can

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Janus X

25. It was 2 years ago...

25 year old was/is dating a 44 year old.

He's old enough to be your father.

So. How much "allowance" does he give you weekly?

I'm not interested in your retarded "age is not a factor" argument, here. You clearly have some issues if you're dating someone old enough to be your father.

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Using your logic, dating anyone 10-12 years older could theoritically be one's father

When I met him, I thought he was 35, he thought I was 28. When we figured ou age, there was a period of uneasiness

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Janus X

Using your logic, dating anyone 10-12 years older could theoritically be one's father.

Either you just condoned pedophilia or you're worse at simple arithmetic than a kindergarten student with autism. For your sake, I hope it's the latter.

But I doubt it.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Age is a factor for some and a non factor for others. Although some say age does not matter it does when you look at the long term picture.

My mother was 23 when i was born and my dad 67 so yea it does matter. My dad died when i was 24 years old which is hard for any one to deal with. I won't have a long term relationship with any girl younger or older than 10 years despite getting real person with a few youngers girls in my late 20s.


I think girls who go for older guys typicaly have had bad relationships with their fathers. I think fat men ( especialy fat american men) who import women from 3rd countries have issues with their self esteem thus go for women who will pump their ego and OH cater to their fat laziness and inability to get a girl here in the states.

I think boys who go for older women tend to have had bad relationships with their mothers. There was a peroid of time I had a thing for older women and yes I had a very bad relationship with my mother. When i was 12 I watched her kill 2 people and shoot two others..

So to wrap this up age is a factor always, its just ignored and shunned by some while they pretend its not a factor.

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Originally Posted by Encephalon

Either you just condoned pedophilia or you're worse at simple arithmetic than a kindergarten student with autism. For your sake, I hope it's the latter.

But I doubt it.

I don't know that the older guy could be a pedo as long as the girl was over 18 legaly.


However if she was in her mid 20s + I don't know that I would consider him a pedo at that point.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Encephalon

Either you just condoned pedophilia or you're worse at simple arithmetic than a kindergarten student with autism.

For someone I find a constant bore, that was one hell of a funny.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Shively

Age is a factor for some and a non factor for others. Although some say age does not matter it does when you look at the long term picture.

My mother was 23 when i was born and my dad 67 so yea it does matter. My dad died when i was 24 years old which is hard for any one to deal with. I won't have a long term relationship with any girl younger or older than 10 years despite getting real person with a few youngers girls in my late 20s.


I think girls who go for older guys typicaly have had bad relationships with their fathers. I think fat men ( especialy fat american men) who import women from 3rd countries have issues with their self esteem thus go for women who will pump their ego and OH cater to their fat laziness and inability to get a girl here in the states.

I think boys who go for older women tend to have had bad relationships with their mothers. There was a peroid of time I had a thing for older women and yes I had a very bad relationship with my mother. When i was 12 I watched her kill 2 people and shoot two others..

So to wrap this up age is a factor always, its just ignored and shunned by some while they pretend its not a factor.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Shively

However if she was in her mid 20s + I don't know that I would consider him a pedo at that point.

Janus is a male.

And yes, it's legal.

The question is: what does it say about the person?

Originally Posted by Janus

Using your logic, dating anyone 10-12 years older could theoritically be one's father

That's not exactly my logic, but thanks anyhow. And it's "theoretically," for future reference.

19 years is a big difference. I can't possibly imagine what a 44 year old would share in common with a 25 year old, but it's the same old argument. There's something psychologically askew if you ask me.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Swank Frank

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Fuck me sideways but that is just.. wrong in all angles. Shively, is that a joke? Do you even have proper medical attention if it were real? Shrink maybe?

And no, I know of some "boys" who go for older women, and they have perfectly normal mother-son relations with their mothers.

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