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We've already discussed that it's not a meat market. You don't get to choose your matches. With other sites, you go around looking at pictures and you talk to whoever you want. That is a meat market, yes. With eharmony, you get maybe 3 matches at once and you have to deal with those people. You don't get to look for others.
FELIPE NO |
Why on earth wouldn't you want to cut out a lot of the unnecessary bullshit, and get rid of the people you know you wouldn't like in the first place? What, you don't want my bikini-clad body? |
It is pretty much taking your tastes, right, in say FOOD. And telling you "Well, you like calimari and pancakes! THESE are the GREATEST CALIMARI AND PANCAKE SHOPS IN THE WORLD!" It IS a meat market, but not in the way that you usually think of the typical proverbial meat market. You don't get to chose ANYTHING, do you. Heh
Jam it back in, in the dark. |
There's nowhere I can't reach. |
You know, I never thought about that, but the stuff you know going into an eharmony relationship will generally take you about a month to get a feel for otherwise.
This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it. |
Thats not to say you CANT fail at eHarmony. Nothing is failsafe.
Its important to know that if you DO go out on a date with a woman like this (ahahaha, I would hate it too), you have the right to chose and learn from your decision. You simply either duck out of the date or you never call her again. You have learned something you DISLIKE and you have learned how to DEAL with that. You're missing that entire experience from eHarmony. You're just given people that you're most likely to have chemistry with. Which in my book is ultimate cheating. How ya doing, buddy? |
If it's cheating, what's the test? To find happiness? And who's grading?
I was speaking idiomatically. |
What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now? |
"Selling yourself short by a long shot." Hows that. You want to misinterpret that, too? Alice, chemistry and compatibility (did I spell that right?) are the same in my book. Sorry. It lines up people you HAVE A GOOD CHANCE of having something with. Hows that? And "activities you mutually enjoy" aren't always going to score your your perfect mate. (Its hilarious to think so, though!) FELIPE NO |
Well, it looks like none of us are on the same page.
One thing, though.
What, you don't want my bikini-clad body? |
Some people can, though, so I'm not knocking you. How ya doing, buddy? |
Alice, we already know that you and I differ vastly on the topic of "physical" chemistry. I tend to ignore the looks and go straight for whats in the head. Some people seem to look at the barrier of looks before whats in the head. Its all depends on the person. There's nowhere I can't reach. |
I really want to figure out what this "chemistry" is. Are you quite certain that it's not just a subtle personality trait that you can't articulate about?
This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it. |
I've met people (who I never intended to be my mate) that I REALLY jive well with. You're comfortable just sitting quietly with silence between you. There IS no awkward silence. You just kind of enjoy each other. And it feels like you've known each other a long long time. A person you can let yourself be REAL with, I guess? I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body? |
Minion, it might be, because I think it has very little to do with a person's looks, as evidenced by the fact that the guys I've dated who wouldn't be considered conventionally attractive are often the ones I've been the most sexually attracted to. I've often wondered if it's a smell. It could definitely be a personality trait, although if it is, I've yet to put my finger on it.
I was speaking idiomatically. |
Now, Sass. What you're describing is the kind of rapport I have with one of my close friends. He's a guy though and I'm not gay. So, is chemistry possible between two people who don't want to have sex?
What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now? |
No, that's comfort. Not chemistry. Two COMPLETELY different things.
FELIPE NO |
Do I really want to spend more money to find out? Do I want to waste both of our times and make obligations that don't pan out? Do I want to give her the wrong impression because I'm curious about knowing her a bit more intimately? And don't try to tell me that these things get easier to recognize with experience. I'm sure to some extent that's true, but what it really boils down to is gut instinct. What, you don't want my bikini-clad body? |
Chemistry means (in my head) that some things are MEANT to go together. Not necessarily for sex, but for mental health and camaraderie that naturally exists between certain people. I mean, hopefully, the person you eventually settle down with longterm IS your best friend, right? Thats most important, no?
Off topic, I hate people who aren't honest when they meet you. Just TALK to me. I'll talk BACK. Be true. ;_; (Also, this is where that EXPERIENCE could help in being able to determine these things! ^_^ )
How about taking it step-by-step, really slowly, and not worrying about those things. Just show her who you are - if you do, hopefully SHE will feel comfortable to show YOU, too. Not everyone is socially OUTGOING enough to lay everything on the line and take some risks. Its an art. It really is. Thats why I HATE these dating services claiming to be able to do miraculous things for lonely people. They need to do it on their own. ;_;
If you don't know the rules of the game, you won't be able to do the best you could do. Don't yell at me. Jam it back in, in the dark.
Last edited by I poked it and it made a sad sound; Mar 15, 2006 at 12:04 PM.
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So, in conclusion, Chemistry is another of those words that all women use and yet none agree on. Like "confident".
There's nowhere I can't reach. |
This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it. |
Well, some women secretly mean "obnoxious".
I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body? |
WHO thinks confidence is obnoxious. WHO. I don't think I've seen any GFFing FEMALES say that shit. I was speaking idiomatically. |
In summary, I think possibly the worst words that I should ever have to hear are "I had a good time tonight."
ORLY. Care to expand on that? Give me more than the normative prerequisite for spending my money. What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now? |
What he means is that he thinks women secretly prefer the obnoxious, rude types, but they veil it behind the "I like confident men" statement.
Which is retarded. FELIPE NO |