Have you been bullied before?

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I've been accused of this as well. Why do they do that to us?

Because we prefer to not have our vocabulary primarly composed of slang and cuss words and try to act "down with the homies". That shit is so phony. And yes I meant to rhyme that.

Yea I've been bullied - throughout middle school and the 9th grade. I was one unhappy student. One day I couldnt take it anymore and I fought one of my "regular bullies". He did kick the shit out of me but I kept coming back for more. Hell I just wanted him to leave me alone. Since then we were like "semi-friends". There was something about me that kids didn't like, don't know what it was. I was generally quiet. Maybe kids thought I was a stuck up antisocial moron. All they had to do was try to get to know me.

Man when school ended for me, it felt like a big cloud was lifted off my shoulders.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I was bullied a lot as a kid. As I entered the midteens, bullied sometimes became jumped. I was the nonconfrontational type always too afraid to fight back in fear that I may worsen my own circumstances. That changed, though. It must have been at 17 that I started dishing back out. I don't boast about this, but I've broken a couple of arms, noses, and prides. I just got tired of being the scrawny silent type. I only abused people who posed a serious physical threat to myself or a friend, though. The circle of life.

I, too, was a 'fake ass nigga' or 'white boy'.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Elcee

I, too, was a 'fake ass nigga' or 'white boy'.

Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

I've been accused of this as well. Why do they do that to us?

I'm not quite sure either. I've actually learned to take those sort of comments in stride, but I still don't fully grasp it. How can I be the "whitest black guy" you know just because I'm book smart, rarely use slang, and can speak reletively well? None of my white friends have any of those characteristics, yet they like to place me among their category.. Makes no sense.

Two buddies of mine are what you'd call rednecks, and are the closest things I have to bullies today. They often force me to respond with equally stereotypical insults in order for them to understand anything I say. For example -

"Yea yea, why don't go back to your cotton fields nigger?"
"HAHAHA, why don't you go back to your 3-inch dicks and inbreeding, cracka!"

I don't like bringing myself DOWN to their level, but it's the only thing that works when dealing with the bullying type.

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I took the comments in stride. I didn't take the beatdowns in stride, ace.

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Originally Posted by Elcee

I took the comments in stride. I didn't take the beatdowns in stride, ace.

Ah, that's the difference between us then. I only got comments!

FELIPE NO

I figured as much. A couple of my closest friends straight up call me a nigger. No 'a'. I took it for a while before I checked them to make sure they knew that they should start making it sound more like a joke. I called my ex a nigger lover from time to time, in reference to myself of course. It's all fun and games until somebody gets hurt by it, so I try to avoid it altogether. Lastly, I'm not of any immiediate African descent. I'm Caribbean.

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Originally Posted by Plarom

I'm not quite sure either. I've actually learned to take those sort of comments in stride, but I still don't fully grasp it. How can I be the "whitest black guy" you know just because I'm book smart, rarely use slang, and can speak reletively well? None of my white friends have any of those characteristics, yet they like to place me among their category.. Makes no sense.

One of my friends had the nerve to tell me one day that I don't sound or act black. I was like, "How the hell are you supposed to know and you're not even black?!". I came to find out that he was basing that stuff on crap he saw on TV. One some of my black friends actually get mad at me for the way I speak (decent minus slang and garbage). They actually try to annoy me by using a whole bunch of that garbage around me. Geez, it's not that hard to learn proper English! What is wrong with them?


I beat this girl up as a kid that tried to bully me. She called me a whole bunch of names and crap and even stole something of mine. Then she made the mistake of coming on my front lawn bragging about it... I punched her like three or four times in the head and the stomach, which knocked her down. She gave me my stuff back and never bothered me again.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Did you declare, 'Homey don't play dat!' ?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Elcee

I figured as much. A couple of my closest friends straight up call me a nigger. No 'a'. Lastly, I'm not of any immiediate African descent. I'm Caribbean.

That made me realize that I totally forgot about a situation I had similar to that. I was in 6th grade sitting at the lunch table with a friend of mine and he asked me to get something for him. After I replied with a "Sure" I heard him say under his breath "Stupid nigger." I shoved his ass to the ground hard and before I started punching him I asked where he learned that word. He had a look of terror in his eyes and responded, "M-my brother!"

At that point I knew he didn't even understand what he was saying, so I spared him an ass whupping before a teacher came over to see what the trouble was.

Sidenote: I'm Caribbean as well, and as far as I know, we're as easy going as they come.

Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

One of my friends had the nerve to tell me one day that I don't sound or act black. I was like, "How the hell are you supposed to know and you're not even black?!".

Yea, this is the kind of ridicule I get on a daily basis. 'Black' nowadays isn't a race anymore, it's a style. Everyone can look/act 'black,' but whether or not you really ARE black suddenly has little to no impact people's judgements.

This boggles my mind.. :juggler:

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Just in grade school, really. Nothing too serious with bullying happened in highschool, as it was surprisingly more laid back than I had anticipated.

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I've been bullied in highschool... I was skinny, hated sport and everything "popular kid" related. I prefered daydreaming and drawing little stars and moons in the sand and somehow other kids didn't like that. I don't really care about it tho, I've kinda learnt from it. Later when I went to college I became so popular and believe me that wasn't fun at all either.

I was speaking idiomatically.

When I was younger, I was a fat little tike and was teased mercilously on account of it. Probably one of the driving forces in why I stay in shape today, although like many I have problems building any kind of noticeable muscle mass. :S Anyway, I can say I was lucky enough never to be psychically bullied in my day, which really wasn't common at all at my grade school in fact.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Kids tried to bully me at school... but I was already on forums where we exchanged harsh verbal and written arguments... so those kids had no game over my forum fights. I prolly got more emotional over my forum arguments lol. (what u think i was a loser?! HEY REMEMBER I WAS YOUNG THEN..still growing up). obviously im wiser now... but yea.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Elcee

Did you declare, 'Homey don't play dat!' ?

Haha, no, but I did yell really loud that if I ever saw her on my lawn again I would do the same thing. My brother (he was standing there watching the whole thing) thought it was hilarious. My parents somehow heard the entire thing through the walls and they laughed at me too. Well, at least I didn't get in trouble for getting beat up! :biggrin:

Originally Posted by Plarom

Yea, this is the kind of ridicule I get on a daily basis. 'Black' nowadays isn't a race anymore, it's a style. Everyone can look/act 'black,' but whether or not you really ARE black suddenly has little to no impact people's judgements.

I agree with you 100%. It's sad, though. I just shake my head when I see little things that seemingly mock black people. It's like all of a sudden the people who act black are cooler than the people that are black. I will never fully understand this concept...

When I was in 9th grade, some idiot fool in my neighborhood decided he wanted to bully my cousin (they were together briefly). I was sitting there on the bus while they were in the back arguing. All of a sudden I hear him threaten her and say, "I will beat the shhh out of you if you don't shut up!". Immediately my headphones came off (I was listening to some sort of music) and I turned around real slow. I think the little piece of garbage forgot I was on the bus. I went to stand up to go back there and he saw me and backed off of her. He never bothered her again.

I'm not violent! Trust me! I just don't like it when people threaten me or threaten people related to and friends of mine!

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I was bullied when I was in elementary school. 2nd grade. This one girl. She would poke me with pencils and call me names and one day walking home from school I ran up to her, pushed her on the ground and kicked her(multiple times) and ran to my house.

I am really pathetic. Her mom was huge though. Tall and fat, she came out of the house running so fast. Then my mom would argue with her on the phone(don't know how she got my number) and I'd here my mom yell and stuff. and then...

we became friends? we became friends...

Then before that this boy called me something and I went off. Shoved him to the wall and stuff.

In high school no one makes fun of me because, the silent kids are just waiting to erupt. but I'm not really silent. Not anymore. People leave me alone. I leave them alone.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Plarom

They taunt me by calling me the "whitest black guy" they've ever known. Keep in mind, these are both my black and white friends..

Same here.

It's something that's pretty much thrown in my face by anybody that sees the way I act for the first time. For some reason when black people say shit about it, I get especially pissed off.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I was never bullied back in secondary school before. Our class was kinda tight knitted anyway and I was always on good terms with everyone in my school. My first time ever witnessing bullying was when during my first year in NZ doing the last year of high school. A new friend of mine (also Asian and also arrived the same year as I did) was kicked by some kid up the butt right in front of me like it was a joke or something (we did report it but they never got caught). I was sprayed with water+ spit a few times and told to go home. Name calling a plenty and always just outside school grounds, outside school hours. But ever since starting uni I haven't met anything of that sort.

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Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

One of my friends had the nerve to tell me one day that I don't sound or act black. I was like, "How the hell are you supposed to know and you're not even black?!". I came to find out that he was basing that stuff on crap he saw on TV. One some of my black friends actually get mad at me for the way I speak (decent minus slang and garbage). They actually try to annoy me by using a whole bunch of that garbage around me. Geez, it's not that hard to learn proper English! What is wrong with them?

I get the same shit. In school they call me "the whitest black guy" it pisses me the fuck off. I would plow their heads into a locker or something but I'm trying to graduate here and fighting in my school gets you a ten day suspension so it's not worth it. I also get the occasional white kid calling me a "nigger" and shit but I just call them a "cracker" or "honkey" or "KKK mother fucker".

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Is is my imagination or is being "the whitest black guy/girl" supposed to be an insult of some type? I suppose that would explain the angry looks I get when I say "whatever" and walk away.

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many girls including me here bullied by some missus that never wore the same thing twice. We where in junior high at the time when she move to the next town. She bullied a girl there and it got so bad that she appeared on the Sally show. I am sure I have the tape somewhere, If I can find it, I will rip it and upload it somewhere.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Now that I actually read this thread I've realised that us black folk go through a lot of the same shit. It's kinda sad but at least now I know I'm not alone.

FELIPE NO

Yep, you'd be surprised.

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Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

Is is my imagination or is being "the whitest black guy/girl" supposed to be an insult of some type?

Didn't you know? It's a crime to be born different. ^_^ No we can't have that. Everyone must be exactly the same or the world will not turn on it's axis properly.

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Ohh snap I just realised I never gave my full story. Well here it is. I used to be a pussy I used to take a lot of shit in school 1- about 7th grade. I moved to the U.S in 7th grade and that's when it really got serious. I was getting beat up on pretty much a daily basis and I was sick and tired of that shit. I used to try to avoid people as much as possible but they always found me. At the time I was really into in Dragon Ball Z and I used to watch that show all the time and it inspired me to ask my mom if I could take martial arts classes. I found a Judo/Jiu Jitsu school in my area and I started going to it. I started getting stronger and got a better build and gained some confidence after I'd been doing it for a while. I never actually got to go all out and use my skills on anyone (I'd been in a few fights but they didn't last long enough for me to really start whupp'in some serious ass.) So I've pretty much been doing Judo/Jiu Jitsu ever since and I've also done a few other martial arts as well. Now I'm going for my black belt test in the summer and in the Fall I'm off to Bootcamp to become a Marine. Now that I look back on it I realise that it's made me stronger.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I guess with a forum like this we've all experienced being bullied before. My brother and I, in particular my brother, was picked on a heck of a lot in elementary and middle school. He is a bit chubby, and that really fueled these ass-holes' fire. I remember sitting in the bus with my brother and having his hair pulled. I actually stood up, and yanked that guy's hair. Then, I did the forbidden, forced my brother to tell our mom, and she went to authorities (and called the boys' mothers).

That wasn't really the end of it, but getting adults involved did lessen some bullyings. And having me around as well.

From then on we never did ride the school bus ever again, instead we waited around for someone to pick us up every day. Sometimes we would sit outside and wait, and some low class kids would throw rocks at us. What the fuck, seriously.

But thinking back on it does bring a tinge of pain and hurt. Why kids would ever do that to innocent bystanders, I do not know. Once they took my brother's binder away and we searched the whole school for it an hour after it ended. He had everything in that one binder. It was sad.

But one thing for certain, it allowed me now that I'm old enough to understand to realize that kids who bully should definitely face consequences. It's not right, and could leave scars if left ongoing for years. You just have to stand up and fight back. I mean, that's the only way to survive in this dog eat dog world, I learned. These kids will never learn unless you give them a taste of their own medicine.

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