First "breakup"

Listening to music after a break up is almost a right of passage. The love songs turn to angry loud songs, and after a few weeks hopefully you'll feel better and be over her.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Living Legend

I really care, I don't want to be known as someone who would be associated with drugs or alchohol. With friends, I only have maybe one who drinks and smokes and I think IT'S FUCKING STUPID, and I hope he reads that since he is on this board "Shiny Mcshine".

Well let's see...the last time I was drunk was......lemme think...that's right, OCTOBER...and the last time I smoked weed was like 2 1/2 months ago.



So please explain to me this high-all-the-time, drunk-every-weekend thing. No really.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Cyantre

Listening to music after a break up is almost a right of passage. The love songs turn to angry loud songs, and after a few weeks hopefully you'll feel better and be over her.

This is true, and it works.

I've only had one major breakup in my life, and I found it really tough going. And to be fair, I don't think you ever get over it fully. Or maybe that's just me?

But yeah, the best thing that you can do is to try and do as many things as possible. Keep yourself busy. It will be hard, but the sooner you start your mind working on other things, then the pain will ease away.

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Originally Posted by SonicEchidna

This is true, and it works.

I've only had one major breakup in my life, and I found it really tough going. And to be fair, I don't think you ever get over it fully. Or maybe that's just me?

But yeah, the best thing that you can do is to try and do as many things as possible. Keep yourself busy. It will be hard, but the sooner you start your mind working on other things, then the pain will ease away.

Hmm... since all my old posts went down with the GFF crash, I'll say it again.

It's a psychological thing, once you think about depressing stuff, to reopen old wounds, past traumatic events and times when you feel like killing yourself. EMO music is okay... just as long as you are about to let out that anger/depression. If you bathe in it while listening to EMO music... well... You'll turn out like I was in Year 10 (which is not very good believe me).

Hang in there man. A girl far greater than your ex will come. The system works.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by chaofan

Another chance? With a druggie?

Okay, I guess the reason you went out with her was cause she was good looking. If so: THERE ARE BAZILLIONS OF HOT CHICKS OUT THERE. My advice to you, take it or leave it, is to get back into doing the things you love so that you can stay yourself. And when you stay urself, an attractive AND nice (they do exist) girl will come to you. You don't find love, love finds you (this I can say from personal experience).

No, The reason I went out with her was because we connected so well, with music and art. I sadly met her online and I had no idea what she looked like, but I liked her from the beginning. When I met her, I did find her very attractive though.

Going out with a hot girl just because she is hot is quite ridiculous to me. Something I wouldn't do just based on that. What I thought I had with her was love, I still feel something and it's not something easily to get over, but oh well.

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However, if you went out with her because she's nice: Bullshit. Everyone can be nice when they feel like it. It all comes down to trust really, and by your entries so far I concluded that she is a deceitful, dirty and unsympathetic girl who don't care about your feelings. Give her a miss.

It's sad reading this, she was nice...for a few months. 6 months of being nice and then somehow something went horribly wrong. She went and smoked pot, which is a promise she broke, so trust was out the window.

She seems quite deceitful, and unsympethetic based on her current actions, and it just wasn't good. Even though at the end the relationship went to shit (the last two months) I just still wish it was happening.

Oh well, I have to move on, and it's fucking not that easy.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Living Legend

No, The reason I went out with her was because we connected so well, with music and art. I sadly met her online and I had no idea what she looked like, but I liked her from the beginning. When I met her, I did find her very attractive though....

...Oh well, I have to move on, and it's fucking not that easy.

No it's not easy... but hey as everyone else said, just go back to the things you enjoy.

Oh... the first impressions thing. I think that's only think prevent people in the world to actually have prolonged relationships. People are going on with their lives not really knowing that the girl they pick on at work/school is the one that they have a more fruitful relationship with, rather than the girl who seems pretty and nice.

But then again, it's hard to know who's a good person or not. You'll be fine anyways.

FELIPE NO

as many people would say if you eat for every day rice or apples you will either A) get used to them so much that you cant live without them OR B)Get tired of rice or apples and never want to eat them again.

Life is full of decision and choices!You cant blame someone who wants to eat rice and apple so much but on the other hand you CANT force someone to eat rice or apples without his will.

So in this case your apple and rice are not wanted by her,while her apples or rice are so hot that have you hooked?

My advice life is not only apples and rice,there are many spaggeti girls out there,chocolate girls,fruit girls (other than apple girls),hot tasty girls,rotten or not good ,sweat and salty,anything you can imagine!

Women are not only the rice and apples you were used to eating!Eat something else

From your food specialist NIKODR

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

OMG I MUST BE A HEATHEN BECAUSE I DRINK ALCOHOL.

Oh wait, I smoke cigarettes too! OMG.

Seriously, all of the people in here that are like OMG DRUGS R BAD, not constructive at all, because I can guarantee you most of them are ignorant to the subject, anyway. Do you guys eat cheeseburgers, or better yet take prescription "medications"?

Anyway, before I derail the thread. I know what you're going through, I remember my first break-up, and it wasn't the worst one I've been through, either. So, the first isn't always the hardest, but like many other things in life it's a learning experience. It's a good idea to hang-out more with friends, in fact, it's a good idea to hang out a lot with your friends while you're in the relationship, so as to avoid the shrinking social group effect that sometimes happens in long-term relationships.

Maybe it's just me, but I always find that just going back to dating again helps. You know, testing the waters, going out and having some fun, meeting new people. Sure, you may only go on a couple of dates with some of these other women you meet, but that's how you find the one you click with.

I just broke up with someone I had been seeing for awhile since I got back to San Diego, a few weeks ago. I went out with thes other woman and we've been getting along pretty well. It's fun and it's refreshing to know that there's always someone out there for you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Denicalis

OMG SHE DOES DRUGS! SOMEONE CALL A WAMBULANCE! I love how you people act like drinking and smoking dope are somehow the ultimate vice. It's probably good that she left you, you seem like a boring S.O.B. anyway. You definitely posted in the right section. It's the only place that won't rip you to shreds for this.

Nice try asshole but I hate people who post like you. I don't give a fuck if he's a drama queen(king?).

He's hurt and well he needs some help and reassurance like any other human being.

And he didn't say that doing drugs or booze is bad(not that I saw anyway.) but if she goes into like an addiction where she's abusing it. THAT IS THE PROBLEM.

Go ahead and try to flame me. You'll be wasting your breath you piece of shit.

Anyway...

I have to agree with most people here.

All you can do is move on and relax. There will be much better girls then that one espeically if she has a drug and or booze problem.

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Sorry Living Legend but it sounds like she doesn't deserve you. Having dealt with a guy with similiar issues, I got to say it really isn't worth it. In fact, feel thankful you got out when you did because bad habits like that have a tendency to suck you in. If she gave you up for her own bad ways, then it's her issue, not yours.

It's totally up to you to give back the relationship items or not, especially if you don't think you can get over the sentimental attachment. In fact, it may help with closure if you get it out of your house but on the other hand, they were gifts and are yours. You just have to decide whether or not you're strong enough to keep them around you without provoking emotions.

First breaks ups are always the hardest, especially if they were first loves. The pain goes away with time but just try to spend your time not locked in your room and out in the world with friends.

Requoted cause she is right.

If at worse did what I did with my friend did on his first break up. Went to a bonfire with friends and me, had fun, talked and burned anything he remembered of her.

He saw the burning as a rite of passing on, to forget the old and reach for the stars. All you have to do is keep on pushing foward and have hope.

There's nowhere I can't reach.