Sex and relationships: a practical consideration

Honestly... I've only had one relationship where sex came out very early (I think I had known him for approximately 10 hours before we had sex) and it didn't turn out very well, though I attribute much of that to simple lack of maturity on my part. My mind was swimming with pheremones and suchlike for a very long time after that encounter, and after only a few days I found myself telling him that I loved him.

Time went on and I realized that the only thing we truly shared a connection with was a sexual one, and that I had essentially lied to him when I told him I felt that way. After a month and a half or so, I had to find a way to break it off with him before things got any further, just so we could both spare ourselves a lot of hurt since I knew it wasn't going to just go away or change.

Essentially, I think that having sex that early on did mess up the kind of relationship I could have had with him had something like that not turned up so soon, but that was entirely because I couldn't control my feelings well enough to actually analyze them accurately before spitting them out during a moment of passion. I think that if you're emotionally capable of keeping your head out of the clouds it probably won't hurt things too much, provided your partner is able to meet you halfway on that one. Judging that last part is probably the hardest aspect of it, since you can't really be sure how people are going to react to sex if you've only just met them.

Jam it back in, in the dark.