A Decision which Could Affect the Rest of My Life...

See, warning flags go up for me at many of the points others have mentioned. One that hasn't really gone up is her idea of 'criteria'. Anyone going into a relationship and hunting for a spouse holding 'criteria' that someone has to meet is going into a relationship with a very skewed perspective on life. There's a lot of give and take in relationships, and the idea of criteria means that the other person will always fall short in some way. Always. That also means that she's going to find fault with someone and point out that he doesn't meet her criteria, so it's okay to move on to something else. Obviously I don't know if that's how she is, but I've seen it done quite a few times.

I would also like to throw in my opinion on culture. It's important to understand one another's cultures, but you shouldn't let culture be a determining factor of whether or not to date someone seriously. Cross-cultural relationships flourish all the time, especially white guy/chinese girl. I see it far more than any other (obvious) mix. My dad is white, my mom is Chinese. I have two aunts that married white guys. I have white friends who have married Chinese girls. It's not unheard of at all, and the 'cultural barrier' is overcome by love - because that's what a relationship is about, and as long as it's kept in mind, communication continues and the relationship can flourish.

That having been said, my personal advice would be to not push the matter any, but sit back and let it unfold while offering your support to your friend. It's up to her to make the steps necessary to free herself, so to say, and your move after that happens.

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