Dating best friends: Good Idea or Bad Mistake

Depends on the friend. I had a good friend in high school - I would have considered her my best friend (female) at the time (why best female friend must be dilineated becomes clear shortly). I developed a crush on her, and eventually asked her to junior prom. She turned me down and asked out my best (guy) friend. I figure that means she's absolutely not interested, and move on.

Fast forward to freshman year of college. Despite the fact that we both moved to different states our senior year (her to AZ, me to VA), we were still friends and ended up going to the same college. Partway through first semester she reveals that she's always liked me and would like to go out. We do that whole thing, she comes to visit me over the summer, we get back to sophomore year, and she goes psycho - won't eat without me, holds it against me if I do anything (including with family) without her, etc. Eventually I work through a mutual friend to get her to dump me, because I don't want to be blamed for future emotional instability. Eventually I leave for 2 years on a mission for my church and write her no less than 3 times, and she never responds. When I get back, she continues her silence (she got married while I was gone, and didn't tell me - I found out through a mutual friend) and has only recently broken it when I emailed her to congratulate her on her new baby girl (again found out through a mutual friend).

Post script: the mutual friend seriously likes me, and has for about 4 years now. She just doesn't do anything for me. We're close friends, but there's always a divide because she knows I know she likes me, and all the iterations of that confusing statement.


Bottom line: it's sometimes good, but often dangerous to date close friends.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

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