I need to do something.

Man, that stinks. I can commiserate on a small scale, with my cousin/roommate being my boss and creating a tense work environment for me both in and outside of work at times, but he typically only threatens my job, he doesn't take away my work (well, other than writing the program to do aspects of my job, but I help him do that =P). It's really tough to work with family mostly because all actions taken in one aspect of life will typically affect other aspects, if inadvertantly. And either way, taking your projects and customers and whatnot just because another employee whines is bad work ethic.

Good luck with WW3 if it comes to that. Hopefully it won't and your dad will see your side of the argument.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Yeah...we have a guy in the workplace that basically took over all the customers of the CEO when the CEO didn't have time to deal with it anymore (at the time the business was very young - now it's just young). He flourished for about a month, then didn't produce anything on his own for about 4. When he was kicked out of the corporate side of things and made local-only, he did next to nothing for a month, but now he seems to have started to find the motivation to get some work done. I honestly don't know why he's still with us, though. I think a majority of the business partners would do him in, but they're too kind-hearted and willing to give multiple chances. Of course, I'm sure that's a big piece of why I still have my job.

I'm sure that didn't help at all. Ah, well.

As for the anger, I always have to find some way either to vent my anger (and posting about it online tends to help sometimes) or to make it dissipate, typically through music and relaxing my body. While I was on my mission for my church, my mission president (guy in charge of about 200 missionaries in a geographical area) gave us this spiffy meditation/relaxation technique. When you're first starting it, though, you need a place you can relax (ie bed, sofa, or comfy chair or something) and like 15 minutes. Basically you get a focus word or thought that you can keep your mind on - one that won't keep your mind really busy, but that is enough to keep your mind off of other things. Then you focus on one part of the body to the next, typically from the feet up, willing yourself to relax. This way you get both the physical and mental relaxation for at least a small period of time. Eventually when you get good enough at it you can slip into it at will. Quite useful. I don't know if you're in a position to really relax right now, but it's one of the best ways I've found to quell my anger, and especially the physical side effects of my anger.

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The biggest problem with working with family is that if you nuke the workplace and jet, you still feel the results, and now it's personal. I think an argument a la WW3 can work out, but not as much if it turns entirely emotional and then you try to bail - it looks like you're letting it all loose and then trying to avoid the consquences. At least, that's how I would see it.

Luckily, I think you already think along these lines, for the most part, and it's everyone else that's giving the conflicting ideas. Ideas are good as long as they're applied correctly to your circumstances. Don't be silent about it, though (I know you won't ^_^), because bottling everything up is bad for you, plus they won't know what you're thinking and will likely take you to a new level of hurt unless they're informed.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Dang, you make me hate her too. =P I certainly wouldn't trust her motivations, especially if she's proven herself to be not the most hardworking person in the workplace as well as a jerk outside.

I learned in history class that one way to dissolve class tensions is to declare war on an outside force. Therefore, I think you should declare war on another small business. It will dissolve the tensions and give you a common goal, then you can enslave the people you conquer and there's a whole new lowest class that everyone above benefits from. =D

EDIT: It's easier to just use milk rather than dog crap. You don't have to wear gloves, it doesn't stain, and it's just about as hard to get out with similar smelly results. Sour milk smell interactions with carpet cleaner smells are wondrous. I've been in enough cars with little kids to know this.

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Originally Posted by LeHah

The trick is to find a dog who's passing worms.

I concede the point.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

And I have no authority to tell her to go fuck herself.

Though that's not the wording I would use, since when does it take authority to say something like that?

Seriously, though, just keep it as mounting evidence for that chat you aim to have with pops.

(EDIT: heh, the word "not" sometimes completely changes the meaning of a sentence =P)

I was speaking idiomatically.

THAT would be pretty sweet.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

What a wondrous situation. =/ It seems like you have things pretty well in hand as is, though.

I often wish I had someone I could implicitly trust with anything that I could talk to on a normal basis. Anyone I have that I could complain to in real life is too interconnected with my frustrating situations to give an objective view, and things would inevitably leak out to those more intimately involved. Such is life.

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That and it sounds like if you load up her computer with spam and such, you're going to be the one she goes to to get it cleaned off. A bit of a backfire, I would think.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?