What is cheating?

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Does it count if they've been text dating? For instance, naked pictures of each other, texting talking about how much they want to fuck each other? As far as I am aware (or would like to believe) nothing happened physically, but this still pissed me off.

So? Why does it have be cheating? He willfully did something hurtful to you, knowing full well it was hurtful. If you feel like it was a transgression that shouldn't be forgiven, end it. You don't need to wait for some universally recognized standard of cheating to occur before its okay to dump the dude. You don't have to feel bad about it. He sounds like another sack of shit I used to room with. Granted, this guy never actually cheated on his girl, but that was only because he didn't have a ballsack hairy enough to do it. He was a fuckhead anyway.

It seems that some people get caught is this reasoning that the only good reason to end a relationship that has gone south is to catch the other partner cheating on them. Personally, I think that's a load of bullshit. If you aren't satisfied with a relationship, for whatever reason, you end it, or try to fix it. If it doesn't get fixed, you end it.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Bernard Black

It's quite bizzare and certainly too complex to put the whole story up but this little segment I would say was my fault. My boyfriend disagrees entirely, but there had to be something to push him over the edge. I found out a while ago about this, but things are basically sorted. Except for when I get to thinking about it and it just makes me really angry. I guess I've been looking for somebody to say for definate that this is allowed to rile me up so much.

I think its entirely unfounded to blame yourself for this if you can't even pinpoint what exactly you did that makes this your responsibility. None of this "I must have done something to drive him to this" bullshit. He send the text messages. He sent the pictures. He probably tried to hide it from you, and that's because he knew exactly what he was doing. He knew it was wrong. He knew it would hurt you. He did it anyway. Unless he's some little child that can't makes decisions on his own, how the hell is it your fault? Its not like you were standing over his shoulder holding a gun to his nuts to make him do it. If he felt like you were really driving him, he should have explicitly brought that issue to you. If he wasn't happy with the relationship, he should have ended it. Really, all I get from this guy is a bunch of fail.

One of the reasons why this still gets you riled up to think about is because it really hasn't been resolved. Somewhere in the back of your mind, you have unanswered questions and you wonder if he's still doing this shit or if he'll do it again. You wonder if the next time you catch this crap, it will be worse.

There's nowhere I can't reach.