Leaving a relationship

Seeing as this is your first relationship, you did too much, too soon, too fast.

Quote:

A family spends every waking minute together. She never wants me to have any privacy what-so-ever. If I am not supose to have some alone time everynow and then, even when it's playing WoW a few hours out of the week, then I'm clearly not ready for any type of relationship right now.

I don't know where you got this idea, but that's a load of crap. I consider myself as being raised in a healthy family structure, and we still had independent lives and we always respected a level of privacy for one another. The only times when privacy had to be breached were the cases where we felt that it was for the good of our family member. The exception, of course, is raising a child but I consider this to be obvious.

Yeah, its good to spend a lot of time with someone you are in a relationship with, but you do it because you want to do it and you enjoy the time spent, not because you feel like you have to be glued together at the hip.

Quote:

Her mother raised her to not be controlled by men, almost to the point where she gets violent, where my mother raised me to not live a life at all and if I didn't listen to her, she guilt tripped me and cried her eyes out...so yeah, I was fucked from the beginning.

Explaining away your current situation by saying "well, we were just raised to be this way, so we're fucked" is just a bullshit rationalization to try to convince yourself in retrospect that it was inevitable. You know its wrong and its fucked, so do something about it. Out of respect for yourself, you should be saying "This relationship is a fucking shit sandwich, and I'm going to get the fuck out of it." You need to take control of yourself and act for your own benefit. You should be angry.

She's a selfish, abusive, controlling, dysfunctional human being. You need to get pissed off, say "fuck her", and walk away.

Jam it back in, in the dark.