Jul 10, 2006, 12:19 PM
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In myself, I'm not obsessed with my outward appearance. I do try to keep things neat and with an impression of intent. Even if I just wake up and throw something on, it doesn't necessarily appear that way. I keep my collared shirts and slacks ironed and wrinkle-free. I wear solid dark colors, or printed Ts with subdued patterns and designs. I stay clean shaven and keep my neck-line well trimmed (I cut my own hair very short) and keep nose and the uni-brow under control. I also keep the cash and prizes trimmed nice and short--looks and feels better that way, in my opinion.
In a partner, I put limited value on outward appearance. Okay, the obvious ones I do care about; if you don't bath and you stink, I won't be close to you and if you're unwashed and greasy I'm not really going to want to touch you. I don't care all that much about makeup, tanning, or plucking. If you do take the effort to get dressed up, I'll compliment you without warning or hesitation--I recognize that you put in the energy to look nice for me. I'm not looking for a 'trophy girl', and think its pretty stupid to do so. I've dated girls that are heavier than me (I weigh 146 naked), and still found them very physically attractive. I don't like toothpicks, and weight on the extreme end concerns me as unhealthy. Even so, physical attraction is only a small piece of the whole pie. Psychological attraction amplifies other attractive feelings so much so that the experience can hardly be called the same.
As for friends, just don't be a poser. I can't stand people who put on an image that is obviously not a representation of them. Be yourself, and that's it.
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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