Have you/would you stay with someone if they cheated?

I believe people can be faithful to one another. Not all men/women are horndogs and can't keep their clothes on. I don't believe that cheating is a mistake that's kind of like "oops". If you kissed someone else while in a relationship, that might be something that just happened. It's quick, you're confused, moment of weakness, whatever. You can recover. But to have sex with someone, while taking off your clothes you don't have the chance to tell yourself, wait, I'm with someone else? People don't just fall into bed by accident. Drunken stupor possibly, but the whole "caught up in the moment thing" you know you wanted it, and you didn't try very hard to stop it.

I really admire people who can still take back husbands/wives who have cheated. I'm not that kind of person. I couldn't even forgive myself if I cheated on someone. I admire a couple more if they can stay faithful to one another. We're all human, it's not uncommon to be attracted to someone else and be tempted to, but to actually go out of your way and jump into bed with them, that's just not right.

I've known people, friends and family members even that have cheated. None of them ever said it was just a heat of the moment thing. It was always on the back of their minds.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Everyone's marriage is different though, like swingers, some people maybe not agree with that choice, but it's really their choice. If people are very forgiving when it comes to their partner's sexual desires, then that's still their issue.

I mean some couples don't let the other person go to strip clubs, some do. Not everyone takes their vows the same way, I'm guessing some are okay with having an open marriage, you would think most aren't. It's really their choice. People marry for other crazy reasons and if fidelity isn't one of them, I don't really care as long as it's not hurting anyone and it's not my marriage

I'm just not that understanding, which is why I am not married a guy that might potentially have the urge to get into someone's pants by accident. If he ever tried, I'd be gone. I know I deserve someone better if he was willing to try and pull something like that.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by ElectricSheep

Another point to consider: If your partner cheats on you, doesn't that imply that your partner feels that you have failed to meet his/her sexual needs?

Yes, but instead of communicating that point, you run off and sleep with someone else. I think a relationship based around that philosophy is doomed in the long run. Some people can live with a cheater, I just don't think anyone deserves to. It's like staying with an abusive partner except they're abusing you mentally. Of course it might not be considered abuse if you're not bothered by it, in which case is it even cheating?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I dunno... I've known women who have cheated because their boyfriends weren't doing it for them. Is that such a hard thing to believe?

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by a lurker

lol 'men are biologically driven'

That's a nice excuse for guys. I couldn't HELP it, I'm biologically programmed to sleep around.

If that's the case, I'm biologically programmed to mentally destroy you and take everything you own.

I was speaking idiomatically.