Am I dumb for wishing I loved someone?

So there's this country song that goes "you can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall." I think it fits your situation exactly.

Seriously, though. Its kinda a shitty place to be in, but if you don't think you can love him now, you probably won't ever. There has to be a spark or something, and from what I can tell, it either happens near the beginning or it doesn't happen at all, no matter how good of a person they are. And moving in with him is probably a bad idea, even if it looks appealing--unless you're very clear that you're not expecting anything romantic even if there's sex involved. I don't really know about gay men and how they work in relationships, but I know that if you tried to move in with a woman you didn't have any feelings for, it would end badly. Very badly.

Just suck it up and deal with the fact you feel bad about it, and don't get involved. You're both better off. But if somehow you get involved anyway, whatever you do, for god's sake don't pretend like you do love him. That's such a rip-off.

Moved to ANGST, by the by.

Jam it back in, in the dark.