"Settling down"

Only the nation, Sass?

It would be interesting to see statistics of success rates of marriages based on the age the people were at the time of the ceremony. And I wonder too if second marriages tend to last longer because people had a "practice" round and now they know what they really want. I have a sneaking suspicion, though, that the divorce rate is about the same across the board.

Pre-Joley (PJ?) I thought 25 was a decent age to get married (certainly no younger), and that I wanted kids about 28. That way I had time to see the world, act, figure out the marriage, be spontaneous, etc. I don't see the problem with getting married later, as long as you're still young enough to have kids without a huge risk of birth defects.

My perspective on has changed a bit now though, given how young I was when J was born (22). In some ways I still think it's crazy to get married before you're 25, but at the same time I feel like I'm way beyond most people my age anyway. Having Joley made me grow up quite a bit, so getting married in the not so distant future wouldn't seem too weird.

Not that it'll happen, though.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

This is another thing I've been kicking around.

I think you're absolutely right - marriage can be held off on. But I wonder if getting married BEFORE having kids is the more ideal situation? Legally, unmarried folks with kids get the same rights from what I've seen. (Since love children aren't looked down upon so much anymore, I figure)

Depends on what you mean by the "same rights." If you're married, you get a lot of tax breaks you wouldn't get if you were just living together, and that money makes a huge difference when you have a kid.

Other than that I can't think what you mean by rights. Like custody stuff?

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