Leaving a relationship

Originally Posted by Cat9

It will become really hard to leave if you get attached to that baby.

Actually, what's worse is that if he IS attached to that baby and she decides to leave (she will eventually, you know) he will have absolutely no rights to the kid. He's not the father, therefore it is pretty much impossible to even get visitation, no matter how long they were in his house and how much he paid to support her and the kid.

Am I the only one here who noticed that he asked about how to leave and not about how to fix the relationship? He knows the thing's fucked up. If you're that worried about your computer, wait until she's in the bathroom taking a dump or fast asleep and get it and any other important shit together as quickly as possible and put it somewhere she doesn't have access to, like your friend's house. Fix your bank account so that she doesn't have access to it anymore--if it's a joint account then open another account and transfer all the money. Take the checkbook out of her wallet, any credit cards you might be paying for, and her keys to the apartment (and then make an appointment to get the locks changed as soon as possible). Take as many precautionary measures as possible. Then come back and tell her that you're breaking up and that you're willing to drive her to wherever she needs to go for the night, she can pack a few night's worth of stuff and come back for the rest later, when you're there to watch her. And then stand firm no matter what she does. Basically, grow balls, set boundries, and stick to your guns.

And then once you've actually gotten her out of the house, set up an appointment with a therapist so you can figure out why you let yourself get into such a messed up situation, so that you don't get rid of her and then fall right back into it with some other broad.

Originally Posted by Hydelloon

Waiting for nadi to move this to Angst.

You know me so well.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Nadi, can I marry you. <3

Yes, especially if you're willing to work to help take care of my illegitimate child. >_>

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I don't think its so much the situation as both of these people being THICK. I mean, you have to admit - while he works and earns a living, he's not INNOCENT here.

No, that's what I was saying. It's his fault as much as hers that they've got such a fucked up situation. She couldn't take advantage of him if he didn't let her, and because of that, it's going to be way harder to extricate himself from the situation. Especially since it's clear he hasn't had any cojones for a long time, and they might have shriveled up and disappeared from lack of use. Therapy might help him find his balls again, that's what I meant.

There's nowhere I can't reach.